(Closed) PLEASE HELP IM IN URGENT NEED OF ADVISE!!!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: SHOULD I SELL MY WEDDING RING OR NOT??
    YES : (16 votes)
    64 %
    NO : (9 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    based on that story, i think its a great idea to sell it and get a moissanite!  i wish i had known that moissanite existed when we chose our ring because maybe i would have gotten a slightly bigger stone, but oh well.  sounds like you have been through a lot and have good priorities. so if you are both on board, then i don’t see a problem.

    Post # 4
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    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Holy caps lock Batman!

    We’ve had some financial hardships and I have mentioned that I’d be willing to sell my ring, but Fiance would have none of it. It’s transcended from a material object to a symbol with personal value. 

    Sometimes guys surprise us with how sentimental they are.

    I hope and trust that you all will find a way. Good luck dearie!

    Post # 5
    Member
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think Moissanite is the perfect compromise for your situation. I would caution your H from getting a HUGE one, just because that opens up a lot of questions and bs you might want to avoid. I have an Asha (which I think looks a little more like diamond, if that’s what your husband is concerned with). Moissy is a beautiful stone and is what I was considering at first, but then I saw a comparison of the three and we both loved the Asha for my centerstone. Just an FYI that there’s a few other alternatives.

    I think your priorities are in the right place and if that’s what you are comfortable with doing, then I say go for it. You’re right – babies with the man you love is more important than a ring.

    Post # 6
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    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you need to take it up with your husband, he’s the one whose opinion matters, not ours. I can’t really put myself in your place, and I’m not sure what I would do, but if my honey was against it, I’d find another way to get some money. Pick up a second (or first?) job, sell other stuff, etc.

    I’m not really sure what any of the back story has to do with it though, or this sentance?

    “AT THE END HE UNDERSTUD I HAVE SUFFER ALOT AND DON’T THINK IS RIGHT TO SUPPORT ANY KIND OF ABUSE.”

    Is your husband abusing you?

    Post # 7
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    562 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think if it means more to you, you should sell your ring. You can always just sell the diamond and keep the ring, then after you have the baby/some money get a moissy to put in the setting?

    Post # 9
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I suppose that depends on how much you can actually get for the diamond.  The idea of keeping the setting and having a moissanite etc… mounted is a great one, but only if your diamond is worth a significant amount of money second hand.  Fertility treatments are terribly expensive, and I would hate to see you sell something of tremendous sentimental value, only to receive a mere “drop in the bucket” cash-wise.  I would visit a jeweler or diamond merchant and get a quote.  If it pays for a full treatment (whatever method you’re using), then I’d say go for it.  If not… I would just let time and nature take their course.

    Post # 10
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I suppose that depends on how much you can actually get for the diamond.  The idea of keeping the setting and having a moissanite etc… mounted is a great one, but only if your diamond is worth a significant amount of money second hand.  Fertility treatments are terribly expensive, and I would hate to see you sell something of tremendous sentimental value, only to receive a mere “drop in the bucket” cash-wise.  I would visit a jeweler or diamond merchant and get a quote.  If it pays for a full treatment (whatever method you’re using), then I’d say go for it.  If not… I would just let time and nature take their course.

    Post # 11
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    222 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Do you know what are the chances of the fertility treatments being successful?  If it’s a small chance I think that is too risky to sell a diamond for.  If your diamond is valuable, as in thousands of dollars, and you sell it to pay for the treatments that end up not working I think it would be very upsetting.  I think the money would be better spent on something not as risky that would go towards your family.  I dunno, i’m sorry, i know this isn’t the answer you wanted to hear, but i think that you should keep TTC a little more before you take that risk.  Based on your story i’m guessing you are in your mid-to-late twenties, right?  You have plenty of time to concieve, just keep trying different things, or get another doctor’s opinion.  Then revisit the option in a couple of years if you are still financially strapped then.

    Post # 12
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    764 posts
    Busy bee

    My opinion-No, you should not sell your diamond. Diamonds average a 50% resale value so why take that loss as if your life is depending on it? If you are in a downturned financial position, why would you be trying to bring another mouth to feed into the world in the first place? Further, your diamond is bought and paid for. Much of the blood diamond hype was eliminated or at least reduced with the Kimberly Process, so I wouldn’t be guilted in to an alternative stone after the fact.

    Perhaps your time would be best served looking for better employment, or seeking higher education. If my math is right, you are in your late 20’s and have some time.

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