Post # 1
I”m new here, and I decided to join because I desperately need people to sound things off of that get what I’m talking about! I hope in turn I can be a helpful friend to others!
My issue at the moment is the order of events/timing of things at the beginning part of the reception. My venue/caterer disagrees with my dj/coordinator as to how things should be done.
Venue says: we should do a recieving line right after the ceremony, and then once the reception starts the salads are set right before we enter, introductions, toasts, entree’s served, cake cutting, cake served sometime during dancing (they’ll have to take it back to cut it up)
DJ says: no recieving line and once the reception starts the salads will still be set right before we enter (we don’t have a choice in this), introductions, first dance, toasts, cake cutting, entree’s served, while people eat (we will finish first because we will be served first) go greet each table (small wedding only 60 people or so to greet), cake will be served either while we are still greeting or at the beginning of the rest of the formal dances, which will start as soon as we are done greeting and the folks are done with entree’s.
So who do I listen to? I’m leaning towards the DJ, as he has 18 years of experience and has excellent reviews, seems to know his stuff etc. My concern with his timeline is this – is there too much of a lag time between when people get their salad and when they get their entrees? The salads would be on the table for introductions so the guests would have them for that, the first dance, the toasts, and the cake cutting (approx 20 mins) before getting more food. They will have been fed appetizers during the cocktail hour so they shouldn’t exactly be starving, and 20 minutes isn’t really that long especially since they won’t be eating that whole time, they’ll be watching the events of the reception, I am just really unsure about the cake being cut before dinner is over, but the DJ seems to think it will work out very well. Thoughts?? Help!!!!!
Jenny ~ the crazy bride
Post # 3
I would do- No receiving line (they take up a lot of time and with only 60 people, you’ll be able to do the rounds), Intros, toasts, cake cutting, entrée served, make your rounds (make sure you have someone that can tell you when to get up to talk to everyone, if you have 6 tables and have 5 mins at each table, then 30 mins before you dance, you need to get up to mingle), first dance, then cake served while the dance floor is opened up.
Post # 4
Hi, I think that a receiving line is really needed unless you have the time or if you were having a ceremony at a church. However, having a ceremony at the venue then its not needed. You can either select a time right before dinner is served to thank everyone over the microphone, prepare a speech as people must make lots of arrangements to attend a wedding especially if they have children. Then throughout the event mix your mingle with dancing and table visits. If you are having a money box, place it behind you to ensure the guests approach you before placing envelopes in the box. At the end, you would have greated everyone. As for the cake… do it 30-40 minutes before the end of the event and once its cut, then keep the dancing going. Be sure to have your DJ on a time line so he can remind you of each event that must take place next or your coordinator. Best of luck!
Post # 5
I lean towars the venue, but thats just me. I like the idea of all the food being at one time (even if interjected by toasts) and then dancing afterwards. And I like the idea of a receiving line, but that’s just a preference.
Post # 6
I don’t love the idea of a receiving line, but either way is fine. Go with your gut!
Post # 7
Receiving line is a personal preference. (Although the parents may have a STRONG opinion about it)
I can’t imagine doing a cake cutting before eating the entree. I went to a wedding where they had dancing before the official first dance, and served the auxiliary cake before the cake ceremony, it was a little strange. I like having the cake cutting later in the evening, because it still gives people something to look forward to.
My personal problem is deciding on the first dance before, during or after dinner.