(Closed) PLEASE HELP! I'm so conflicted/upset

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Set your plans and goals with your Fiance and let him deal with his family.

Find out if your preferred vendors have a recommendation for people in their field that will be great and within your budget.

Give bridesmaid heads up (you have 10days before I take the dress back…) and follow through.

*hug*

Post # 4
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18 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh you poor thing. We wanted to try and plan a wedding quicker than originally thought and had similar issues (about the photographer, etc).

I think it’s important to let your networks of family and friends know how you are feeling so they can put the feelers out there and see if they know of a photographer you might like, a venue you might not have thought  of, etc… like those wedding shows where the planners come in and sort out the issues for the bride! 

Perfect Pallette (the website) might be helpful for the colour scheme and finding ideas that work for you.

Approach his family with lines about how you understand how much they want to help, but you are really feeling the pressure and if they could help with (small task to distract them) that would be so helpful and you would SO appreciate it.

I guess feeling happy and satisfied are the most important things because the last thing you want to be thinking at the wedding is ‘thank god this is almost over’.

Good luck love!

Post # 6
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I doubt this is going to make you feel better but it may help ward off future upsets. Going forward, I would avoid setting your heart on DREAM vendors and ideas until you have all the information. I have a dream venue too that costs about $450 per head so as you can imagine, a bit out of budget 😉 but that’s nothing to be disappointed about. The venue that’s currently at the top of my list probably won’t let me do the dream string light design I wanted but that’s okay. Honestly, there are so many beautiful choices out there for decor, you’ll like something else. I think verbalizing your desires to yourself in such an extreme way isn’t going to be helpful. As for your photographer, why did you lose her? How could his family possibly have anything to say about that??

As for his family being negative and unsupportive, that’s something you have to talk to him about. I’ve found that weddings bring up a lot of attitudes and behaviors that can impact you down the road. Better to sort this all out with him now.

I feel you, though. We had some major conflicts about the date and I still haven’t managed to book a venue but I know once the big stuff is done, it’ll settle down a bit. Good luck!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

judging from the date her wedding was a few days ago…

Post # 8
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@weddingdaydreamer:  I hope you had a lovely wedding nevertheless…

I hope you were a happy and beautiful bride that you are. XOXO best wishes!!!

Post # 9
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@traveller:  LOL, true! I never look at that

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@nushka:  😀 I have done that a few times before too….

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