- 9 years ago
- Wedding: January 1991
Hi Everyone…I was a poster a long time ago on this site and haven’t been around due to a variety of reasons. I’ve been married since July 2010 and things have been pretty rocky on and off since then. As a warning, this is long…
We argue about money a lot. He comes from a really poor family where they all watched every single penny. He had a full scholarship to college so he currently has no student loans, no car payment, and no credit card debt.
I come from a different family. I got myself into credit card debt because I was irresponsible. It will be paid off by the end of December. I have a lot of school loans due to going back for my M.A. I am also paying off a car.
We still ive in an apartment in which he pays all the rent and utilities while I focus on paying off my bills. This was at his suggestion. His job is very stable compared to mine and he makes a good amount of money more than I do. I can pretty much be laid off anyday.
Basically last night this big fight started when I said something along the lines of: “We shouldn’t have to stop enjoying life and the little things just because I may or may not be laid off soon”. This started a huge fight. He said I had a lot of nerve to say that, how dare I say that when he pays for everything. He also said I am the most selfish person he knows. Also that since he’s a diabetic that his health will get worse and that will mean more medical bills and more money down the line…
I agreed with him and apologized for my insensitivity. I admitted that it is still a work in progress for me to go from living the life I was living to living poor like he wants. I agree with the whole aspect of being responsible with money; but, I think there should be a middle ground. Even though I admitted my wrongdoings and apologized, he still went on and on and on.