Post # 1
Hello. So I’ve been looking up the proper etiquette on addressing invitations and I’ve gotten a headache from all of it . I know later on nobody will remember how I addressed them, but I would still like to do them right. Or at least not offend anyone and make them think I have bad etiquette.
1. So for married couples, it should be “Mr. and Mrs. Jake Field.” I would like to add the woman’s name as well but just doesn’t look as nice when it is “Mr. Jake and Mrs. Kelly Field.” How did you end up doing it? Is it ok to use “&” instead of “and?”
2. I have inner envelopes as well. Etiqutte states it should have “Mr. and Mrs. Field” but I think it would be nice to have it as “Jake and Kelly Field.” Gives it more of a personal touch with their first names on it. Thoughts?
3. If a couple is married but the wife has not changed her last name, does her name go first or is it the guy’s name?
4. Should I spell out apartment? What line should I put the apartment number? I know the correct way per USPS is on the second line between the name and street address, but looks odd this way. Should I put it on the third line or squeeze it on the second line after the street address?
5. Are you spelling out the state? On the return address as well?
Thanks in advance for your help.
Post # 3
1. If you’re going by “proper” etiquette, the man’s name should not be separated from his last name, so Mr. Jake and Mrs. Kelly Field would be improper. I suppose you could do Mr. Jake Field and Mrs. Kelly Field if you really wanted to put her name in there, though. Or, just do “Kelly and Jake Field.”
2. If you do that, that takes care of #2, because the inner envelope could just be “Kelly and Jake.”
3. I believe you would send it Mr. Jake Field and Ms. Kelly Smith.
4. Yes, spell out apartment. The apartment number will go next to apartment, which should be on its own line after the street address.
Apartment Apartment Number
5. Yes, everything is spelled out except for numbers.
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
I mostly agree with PP. You’re asking for proper guidance but #s 1 & 2 steer away from what would be ‘proper.’ Here’s what I would suggest:
1- Listing the last name twice is redundant. Either go with Mr. and Mrs. Jake Field, or Mr. Jake & Mrs. Kelly Field.
2- Go with Jake and Kelly Field.
3- Separate last names should be listed alphabetically. You could use that for married couples with different last names and couples living together who are not married. In this example, it would be:
Mr. Jake Field
Ms. Kelly Smith
4- Spell out apartment and put it on the line below the street address.
5- Yes, spell out everything except numbers over 9. For example:
Post Office Box Seven
Anytown, Utah 99999 OR
123 Main Street
Anytown, Utah 99999