Please help me, am i being played with?

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

You’re being abused.

Calling you nasty names, telling you to deserve to be degraded – this is emotional abuse.

Bee, LEAVE HIM. Being in a relationship with this man is OPTIONAL. You do not need to stay with him. You do not need to make this your life. He’s an abusive asshole and you will be so much better off without him.

That said, he sounds like he can be dangerous. Find a safe place to go and get someone to be with you when you end things. Stay safe, and get the hell out.

 

Post # 3
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100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

Hi Bee, 

very early in your post I had already made up my mind.  What you’re going through is emotional abuse. Think about it… if you’re sick about this now, do you really want to marry a person who disrespects you and then blames it all on you? 
If it were me in your shoes, I’d walk away. 

Post # 4
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

Yes, you are being manipulated. What he is doing to you is called gaslighting. I suggest you read up on gaslighting. Why would you possibly want to be with someone who treats you shit?  Don’t bother with his family either. You deserve far more than you are getting. Leave him. His behavior will not change. 

Post # 6
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5924 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

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@littlecookie:  you can’t do it alone. Find a therapist and start going religiously. Even with covid, there are therapists available. Good luck.

Post # 7
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47389 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not be in a relationship with such an abusive person. Find a therapist who works for you and leave this man to mourn your loss. You move forward by not moving backwards. Seriously, it is much better to be alone than to be in an abusive relationship.

Post # 8
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7348 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Oh, no, no, no, NO. I stopped reading as soon as I got to the word sl*t. NO ONE calls me that and gets away with it. NO. ONE.

Post # 9
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1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I stopped reading at he calls you a slut and says apologizing would enable you.  Fuck this looser and his abusive behavior.  You are not being played, you’re being abused and you need to end this relationship NOW! 

Post # 10
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

If you have to ask you know you should leave. He’s abusing you. You will hurt yet feel much better after you leave.

Post # 14
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2736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Run.  Run like your tampon string is on fire.  He’s downright abusive and it won’t change.  Find yourself a therapist (lots are doing Zoom or other online sessions at the moment) and never look back.  

Also, making you believe you’ve brought all this on yourself is gaslighting of the highest order.  He wants you to believe that, because it makes you think no one else will want to be in a relationship with you, therefore you’ll stay with him.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

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@littlecookie:  NO. Him calling YOU names is not the same as you directing names toward people not present. NOT. OKAY.

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