(Closed) Please help me b4 I go daft!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! – confused male!!

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


Are you just asking for help choosing between these two? It’s hard to say without seeing them. Post the pics, and maybe add a poll for options #1 and #2 to your post. 🙂 

Post # 6
1972 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Welcome!! do you have pics at all? Might be easier to give advice. I personally dont like solitares (on me on some people they look great!) because i find them boring. i like the stones on the band. Sorry not much help!!

Post # 5
4710 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

I agree post a poll and some pics and we will all try and help you the best we can

Post # 7
5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@ZAX:  aww you will get plenty of help here.  I do think you should post photos and add a poll. 

My key suggestion: do you know what kind of wedding ring she wants?  The twisted ring will be harder to pick one if she wants a ring to sit flush or perfect match, while with a solitaire you have every option imaginable.  I think finding that out may sway you one way or another.

Post # 8
6734 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Add pics and a poll.

Also add more info – is there a difference in the price (is one harder for you to pay for, etc?) or in the clarity or carat size of the diamonds? 

I would say going with the solitaire is almost always the best bet.  It’s traditional, yes, but it’s classic and timeless.  And, it’s something that can always be taken for an upgrade on a future anniversary (if you two are ok with something like that) – like to change the setting or something.

However, if the solitaire has a very small center stone, then perhaps the two stone ring would be better because it’s unique and the size won’t make much of a difference since it will be more about the design than the stone itself. 

I’ll check up on this a little later to see if you added pic and more info!

Post # 9
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If she likes both I would go with the one that you like more

the only thing with more unique rings is that it can be harder to get a wedding ring that fits, but you could always get one specially made

you know her wel enough, so have a look at what other jewellery she wears, if she tends to wear quite plain jewellery then she may prefer the simplicity of the solitare, if however she she wears more unique jewellery already I would say go for the twist ring

The above is my opinion only, hope it helps in some way 

Post # 10
349 posts
Helper bee

Good for you for trying to do this right!  As previous posters have said, photos would help.  However, in their absence I would say you should consider her overall style – is she classic, elegant and timeless, or more trendy, edgy, fashion-forward?  I think many of the popular rings today (halo, pave’, multi-stone all the way around, etc) will look very “dated” in a few years, and was pleased to see that my daughter’s taste ran toward classic rings, but your fiancee’ should have whatever makes HER the happiest.  Best wishes for making a decision you’re comfortable with!  I’ll follow this thread in case you post pics, and good luck!

Post # 11
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Welcome to the bee! And per- congrats!  I think it’s great that you are seeking advice/help in the picking the perfect ring.  With that being said, the perfect ring becomes the perfect ring because it comes from you! And what it represents-your love for each other.  

Now… About the nitty gritty. Like other bees have suggested. Pics would be most helpful.  They both sound lovely and both have advantages and disadvantages.  Also, provide specs, the 4C’s if possible.  Look forward to helping, us bees have you covered….don’t worry! 

She’ll love it either way you go!

Post # 13
1596 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

aw it’s so sweet that this means so much to you!

Since we don’t know your girl, it might be best if you ask one of her close relatives (sister, cousin) or very good friend that you KNOW will keep the proposal a secret. Getting another woman’s opinion who knows your (soon to be) fiance should help. (My fiance asked me sister for assistance).

Also, think about the jewelry or clothing (or even home decor) that she usually goes for. If she’s usually buying things that or more unique, go for the untraditional ring. If not, stick with the classic style.

And while not many people are doing solitaires anymore, my ring is a solitaire and I LOVE it! I’ve always wanted a solitaire and wouldn’t change it for the world.

Good luck! 

Post # 16
10035 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Could she fit a wedding band under the ring without having a big weird gap? I know it doesn’t bother some people but it would be a concern for me!

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