(Closed) please help me bees having mother/wedding problems ; (

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: try to be nice and let her think shes getting her way
    tell her to go to hell stand your ground shes not paying a dime you are! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    959 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Not sure how close you are to your mom but maybe the best thing to do is to sit down and talk to her. Let her know how you feel in the best way possible. My Fiance and I are paying for the majority of our wedding but I have included my mom in almost the entire process. She was there when I went dress shopping, helped me pick out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, and even toured our chosen venue with us before we booked it. My mom will be helping out on our wedding whether it be with DIY stuff or paying for the small things of the wedding and I ask her opinion all the time. However, at the end of the day, regardless of her opinion, it’s my (and FI’s) wedding so we have the final word and my mom is fully aware of that.

    I will admit, my mom was stressing me a lot in the beginning and was making me feel like the best thing would have to elope. I couldn’t take it anymore and I sat her down and we had a talk…just her and I. I got emotional and told her what I needed to say and she understand. I know she was behaving that way because of her nerves and feeling nervous about the wedding (i.e., will we have time to do everything and etc). She has been extremely helpful ever since our talk.

     

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Tell her that you appreciate her being interested in your wedding, but she needs to understand that it’s your day.  I can’t imagine not having my mum involved in the planning process (we’re really close) but occasionally I just have to rein her in slightly. Like you, we’re paying for the whole thing ourselves.

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