Post # 1
Dear beautiful Bee’s need some real advice here my mother seems to want to be a part of every step of MY wedding and just so you ladies know no shes not paying a dime me and Fiance are paying for everything. in fact she hasn’t worked in over 2 years and i help her and due to that i haven’t saved a dime in 2 years. she has not had a wedding of her own and i’m sorry for that but shes having a fit Caz I’m not letting her come with me and my bridesmaids to try on and pick there dresses out mind you this is not happening till November 2012 or January of 2013.
she just wants to takeover my whole wedding and shes not paying a dime!!!!
shes negative with everything she says about the wedding Caz shes jealous she never had one she got married at the court house. and i’m sorry for her but i’m supporting her and me and Fiance are paying for our wedding and she thinks i’m wrong when she TRIES to take over and force her opinion on me. i care but her opinion is always negative.
i don’t know what to do but i’m not giving her her way that’s for sure.
and shes just stressing me out all i want to do is enjoy this experience and plan an awesome wedding that i will love.
please bees some good advice from someone who’s been there would be greatly appreciated.
i love my mother dearly but there is only so much i can take shes stressing me out!!!!!!!
Post # 3
Not sure how close you are to your mom but maybe the best thing to do is to sit down and talk to her. Let her know how you feel in the best way possible. My Fiance and I are paying for the majority of our wedding but I have included my mom in almost the entire process. She was there when I went dress shopping, helped me pick out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, and even toured our chosen venue with us before we booked it. My mom will be helping out on our wedding whether it be with DIY stuff or paying for the small things of the wedding and I ask her opinion all the time. However, at the end of the day, regardless of her opinion, it’s my (and FI’s) wedding so we have the final word and my mom is fully aware of that.
I will admit, my mom was stressing me a lot in the beginning and was making me feel like the best thing would have to elope. I couldn’t take it anymore and I sat her down and we had a talk…just her and I. I got emotional and told her what I needed to say and she understand. I know she was behaving that way because of her nerves and feeling nervous about the wedding (i.e., will we have time to do everything and etc). She has been extremely helpful ever since our talk.
Post # 4
@msfuturea: and i agree with you I’ve talked to her shes come with me looking and trying on wedding dresses she just won’t stop with wanting to go and say negative things it like she don’t want to let me go and i’m 39 there are 6 siblings in total why cant she hang on to the baby?
lol its crazy shes very dependent on me.
Post # 5
Tell her that you appreciate her being interested in your wedding, but she needs to understand that it’s your day. I can’t imagine not having my mum involved in the planning process (we’re really close) but occasionally I just have to rein her in slightly. Like you, we’re paying for the whole thing ourselves.