Post # 1
based on distance to travel?
I think this would be useful to lots of brides who are aiming for an estimate of actual attendance.
In order to play this game, please include:
– your total number of invited guests
and an estimated % of those who rsvp’ed yes who, to get to your wedding:
– had to drive less than one hour
– had to drive 1-3 hours
– had to drive more than 3 hours
– had to get on a plane
Post # 3
I don’t know about all the stuff about how far they had to travel etc, but we invited 207 and only 132 are coming which was like a 37% decline rate….that seems high to me, I’ve heard more in the 20-25% decline rate Not sure if that helps, but that’s what ours was.
Post # 4
We invited 145, 95 RSVPed yes.
-75% had to drive less then an hour, the rest had to get on a plane.
But I also think it had to do with the day, it was on a Sunday. And only 30 people were invited to the ceremony, so a lot of Out of Town people weren’t going to fly all the way here just for a dinner.
Post # 5
I have to say, I’ve been a wedding planner for years and it’s ALWAYS different! But… here is mine (estimating the responses we’ve yet to receive:
- 202 Total Invites
- 124 total yes
- 51 less than an hour
- 56 1-3 hours
- 15 3+ hours
- 2 flying in
Post # 6
I posted the other day that I realized that more than half of our invites were going to out of state guests, so it is sort of reassuring to see people’s numbers in similar situation. We still have 4 months until invites will go out, but we just sent our save the dates to something like 220.
About 50 live within an hour, 50 within 3-4 hours. The rest are all out of state! I think we will probably end up with a fair amount of declines, especially because my parents are hosting another reception in their hometown (I doubt most of their guests would come to both!)
Post # 7
So I had 20% of people not show. Right with the standard estimates. What’s funny is, that the farther the guest got away the higher percentage that showed up. Although that represents less people.
Total invites 132
less than an hour 32 guests 68% attendance to invites
1-3 hours 37 guests 82% attendance to invites
3+ hours 22 – 91% attendance to invites
flying in 15 – 93% attendance to invites
Post # 8
@mwitter80:thanks so much! That is exactly what I was looking for! 🙂
Post # 9
thanks so much for posting – i’ve been wondering about this too – my fiance’s familiy is all from out of state – but my HUGE family is pretty much all in state… we are inviting around 260 people and did not send a save the date, we plan to send out invitations on the early side (Mid July?) – any one else in a similar situation? no idea how many people to expect.
Also – what have you all experienced as far as inviting people with a +1 as a courtesy even when they’re not in a relationship – do people usually bring a date or RSVP for just themselves????
Post # 9
sorry posted twice and cant figure out how to delete! woops!
Post # 10
This would help us a bunch, too. I believe over half our guest list will have to fly in, and about 25 of those would come in from other continents, so the whole passport thing throws another hoop into the obstacle course. I would love to get a good idea of the numbers.
I had one planner tell me that 25% attrition rate is normal, but it jumps to about 50% for out-of-town guests. Or course, I don’t know what her definition of out-of-town was… Did she mean the people who would drive two or three hours? Or did she mean the people flying in from out of state? Or did she mean my foreign guests? I *know* that the attrition rate is going to rise as people get further and further away, so I would love to know what to expect for my out-of-state guests. I just kind of expect that almost none of my foreign guests will make it.
Post # 11
The math nerd in me loves this thread. Sorry I don’t have numbers yet for you, but I will be following.
Although, there are a lot of factors that could also affect attendance: Is it a dw for most people? If so, how desirable is the location? Time of year/season/holiday? Day/date of wedding (how popular, kids in or out of school)? Distribution of guest list (mostly family, mostly young 20-somethings, mostly couples w/ kids)?
Not trying to poke holes, just giving you some text for your disclaimer and the fine print 🙂
Post # 12
@Sking:yeah, I wish that I could get that kind of info, too! but, I suspect that would be asking a bit too much… and hey, btw, I *almost* shared your wedding date! (that was originally our first choice, then we changed it)
Post # 13
@artbee:were the people who had to get on a plane less likely to come than the people who didn’t drive far? (of the 75% who had to drive less than an hour, was that the % of people you invited, or of whom ended up coming?)
Post # 14
@thewheelsonthebus:thanks! but also, what were the numbers of people that you originally invited for each category? (that would give us more of a “what was the actual percentage yes for each category”)
Post # 15
i think its different for each couple and depends how many of your guests are family versus friends and how many of them are old versus young. Family and older guests tend to make the effort to come regardless of distance. Friends and younger guests are more likely to rsvp no if they are far away.