Post # 1
My Fi and I have decided that we wanted to have an adults only wedding/reception. There is really only one child in the entire family but he has a lot of tantrums and never listens so he was the reason we decided to not have children (i.e. him) at the wedding. The problem is that I ordered my invitations and completely forgot to write “Adult Reception to follow” on them.
I know that technically if I address the invitation to just his parents (my cousin) then they should understand he isn’t invited, but they don’t really seem like the type to understand that.
So what else should I do (besides only addressing the invite to the parents) to get this point across without offending them?
Post # 3
@summerbride12: I’m evil and would ask if they found a babysitter or get my mom to call and recommend someone 😉
Post # 4
I don’t know how close you are with the cousin, but if you talk to her on a regular basis, you could ask her if she has child-care set up, or if she needs a recommendation in the area. Or have your mom or someone do it.
Post # 5
Thanks, I probably will just get my mom to talk to her or her mom (my aunt). We aren’t close so I’d feel really weird doing that lol.
Post # 6
if you have response cards in the invitation you can sort of fill it out like ____ of 2 will be attending (assuming just cousin and spouse).
Post # 7
Etiquette recommends including a hand written note within the envelope detailing your wishes as well as specifically only inviting the parents… More invitation etiquette and suggestions for dealing with adult-only receptions, [link removed]
Hope this helps! Good Luck
Post # 8
You shouldn’t write “adult reception the follow” on an invite anyway. It’s rude to point out who ISN’T invited to something. Just address the invite to mom and dad and when they call to ask about little Johnny or RSVP for three call them up and tell them that no children will be in attendance.
Post # 9
@summerbride12:I woudnl’t worry about something that is not yet a problem. IF they respond that they will be bringing Junior then you can call them up and let them know there was an error on their reply card. This gives them the chance to be embarassed.
It would be rude for you to assume them rude enough to not follow the protocol and preemptively call them out.
So really, just wait and see. It may end up being a non issue.