Post # 17
@mandauhhxo: She sounds very controlling! Try to keep in touch with your brother and help him out when the time comes for him to go college and become independent. As for YOUR wedding, tell her the venue she booked and anything else she bought is not needed as YOU and your Fiance are going to plan the wedding YOU both dream of together. If she chucks a fit tell her to grow up or not to expect an invitation. It’s time for some tough love, so mommy dearest realises your an adult and can stand on your own now. Dont let her control you anymore…
Post # 18
@mandauhhxo: Just cause she paid for the wedding doesn’t mean you have to stand at the altar. I’d just plan my own day, pay for my own way, and let her take her drama elsewhere. The headaches you save will be worth the extra money spent.
Post # 19
Honestly, really honestly, I think if I were in your shoes I’d probably stick it out and enjoy my free wedding. It’s hard to say but I think if Cruella Deville knocked on my door and offered to throw my wedding with the caveat that she’d treat me like garbage in the process, I’d probably have to go ahead and take it. Granted it’s different with the relationship between you and your mom, but for the cost of a wedding I’d probably stick out another couple months and get myself a new car. But I’m cheap as all getout so that probably influences my decision 🙂 Good luck hon!
Post # 20
@jennmariee: Thank you!! Unfortunately, Fiance and I are paying for A LOT of this wedding also, not including travel from NC to CT, and hotel, gas, etc. I wish it was just a free wedding. Her and my father are divorced, and she will pay for EVERYONE EXCEPT my father’s side of the family, leaving Fiance and I to pay over 1600 dollars for what? 20 people? And she had told us she’d handle it because we got engaged, everything she wanted was set, and then I had surgery that cost us a fortune!! So we are stuck in a hard place financially but we are doing it! Struggling but getting by!! Thank you for your kind words! You are all so sweet ! XO
Post # 22
@mandauhhxo: No other advice than what’s already been given. Just wanted to throw my support behind you. ((Hugs)) and good luck!
Post # 23
Plan the wedding you want with your money. I would place it a few months out so you could invite her if you start to feel bad. Don’t allow her to control you, your wedding or your Fiance anymore though. That can’t be good for your health or your relationship.