(Closed) Please help me. He saw his Ex.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

That is not cool.

One, he shouldn’t even be talking to her.

Two, he took it further and invited her to the home

and Three, he took her on a date… to your special place.

 

Also.. the biggest problem.. he clearly is NOT over her. 

That’s cheating. Regardless if they had sex, kissed, just hugged or not.

 

If he can’t make the right choices now, when will he? This is something you need to think about before getting married to him.

 

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Does he understand how this person makes you feel? Also, why is he even interested in being her friend, after the vile treatment she gave him? 

Furthermore, is he naive? Does he not see she’s trying to get closer to him? And one more thing: Why did he pay for her dinner? That’s not a message I’d like to send to her (date calibre meeting). 

What did he want to accomplish by seeing her? There was no reason for that, especially since I remember your first story about how she messaged him saying how good he looked, etc. Not cool. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with FutureMrsDrPeter he’s clearly not over her. I would be so hurt if I was in your shoes and believe that you are completely justified. I would feel completely violated as I’m sure you do. 

I’m not going to tell you what to do but you have to decide if you can handle him talking to her. If you can’t, then you can’t and there’s absoluetly nothing wrong with that. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Bram:  I just want to give you a hug. 

When you talk to him, try to be calm, and get these answers from him. He has a lot of explaining to do.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

You have EVERY right to be pissed!  But don’t text/email/talk to Satan whatsoever.  That’s what she wants.  She wants you to be jealous.  I really don’t understand why your FH can’t stop talking to her when she/their relationship has threatened the status of his love life.  If your feelings were that important to him, he would drop Satan like a dead fly!  If you feel even slightly cooled tomorrow, I would meet up with your FH to discuss this issue & talk about why it hurt you, just like you’ve explained to us. I really hope you two can figure something out because I can feel your pain & frustration through this post.  I’m really, really sorry you’re going through this :/.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Bram:  Don’t blame her. She has no duty to you. It is HIM. He could stop this from happening, but he hasn’t. That’s his choice. I understand the anger towards her, but it’s not justified. He’s the one who has a responsibility to you.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would feel exactly the way you feel!! I am so sorry you are dealing with this.  My heart is breaking for you. 

Post # 14
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA

I’d say leave him. I can’t even imagine how you feel. My heart is breaking for you.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Bram:  Echo the PP.  This is emotional cheating.  I don’t even know you but I know you deserve better than this.  I am so sorry that you are going through this.  It broke my heart.  And yes, she is Satan.  She knew he was in a committed relationship, but kept coming like a classless tramp.  But I don’t blame her.  I blame your Fiance.  He didn’t have to hang out with her, travel with her, have her in your home and take her out to dinner.  He DID that all on his own. It’s clear he’s not over her.  You have to decide if that is something you can live with.  Lots of hugs your way! 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

That’s a date and that’s cheating. 

 

Sorry you’re going through this but that’s cheating. Especially with the ex and the lies. He was alone in your house with her. It’s cheating. I’m not normally a “girl you should break up with him now” girl but you deserve better treatment. 

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