(Closed) Please help me. He saw his Ex.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 318
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344 posts
Helper bee

@janetsnakehole:  >>>>do you think maybe he did this on purpose because he knew you would end things?

I 100% agree with this….he is obviously a wimp, seeing how he is with his mom. He was not man enough to stand up and say he wanted out.

Post # 319
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

He’s a jerk for dragging this out for you for so long.

Good for you, to be rid of it as cleanly as possible from here on out.

Post # 321
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Bram:  Good for you!!  I can’t say I wouldn’t have done the same thing, honestly.  They both deserve it and deserve each other.  You’ve got better things coming your way!  

Post # 322
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Bram:  I’m so proud of you.  It takes a strong woman to walk away.  You have a lot of courage.  You’re standing up for yourself.  Men will treat you the way you let them treat you, not how you want to be treated. You deserve so much better than what he is giving you.  If this is really what you want to do, you have to cut off all contact with him.  I honestly don’t believe you all can be friends after this.  Lick your wounds and pick yourself up.  There is an amazing guy out there who appreciates a classy woman who respects herself.  Ladies know when to walk away.  You’re in my thoughts!

Post # 323
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Blushing bee

@Bram


I know that I’m just one of a whole bunch of people spouting off opinions and advice to you, but I wanted to let you know that I truly believe you made a wise decision in choosing to break up with him.

 

I was in your EXACT same situation a few years ago.  Exactly the same.  While my Boyfriend or Best Friend was a good guy and a sweetheart and whatnot, he wouldn’t remove his toxic, clingy ex from his life.  He continually chose her over me by choosing to see her, talk to her, get his hair cut by her (she was a hair dresser), etc.  Each time it broke my heart.  Eventually, I got tired of having my heart broken.  My love for my Boyfriend or Best Friend wasn’t enough to compensate for the hurt he kept putting me through (even though he did plenty of good things, too).

 

We broke up.  It was horrible and painful.  And it was the BEST decision I’ve ever made.

 

The Beatles weren’t right – love is NOT all you need.  You can love someone but that doesn’t mean it’s good or healthy to be with them.  It doesn’t mean a relationship will succeed.

 

I wish you luck in doing what’s best for you as an individual.  Please reach out if you ever need reassurance, guidance or just a place to vent.  The Hive is a great place for such things.  🙂

Post # 324
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

wow, i cant believe he saw her again… even though he knew how you felt and hoe would you feel and his promises…

im glad you ended it, he wasnt the right for you in the end.

Post # 325
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He saw her again?! Unbelievable. I know this must be infuriating and heartbreaking for you all at once, but you did the right thing. You deserve so much better.

P.S. when I gasped in disbelief reading your update, Fiance asked me what was up, so I gave him the in a nutshell version. He said “Wow.. she should totally post his number on there.. a swarm of angry bees is definitely what he deserves” 😉

HUGS Bram! We’re all here for you.

Post # 326
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Brams I just read this post.. I am so sorry but you deserve better than that! I hate that you have to go through this, but you did the right thing. hugs to you!!!

Post # 327
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Blushing bee

I am so, so sorry for you and what you are having to go through.  🙁  When I read that he had given her a ride home from the game, I was shocked- you absolutely did the right thing letting him go.  I know it is hard, and it sounds like you have a LOT of mutual friends and this is going to be really hard, but STICK TO YOUR GUNS GIRL!!  Surround yourself only with friends who are on your side, do not let him back in- what he did and continued to do by giving her a ride home (he couldn’t help that she was at his game, but I’m sorry, he has NO reason to stay friends with her, let alone give her a ride home, especially after what you guys have been going through the last two weeks!!!) is so beyond disrepectful and uncaring.  Just stay strong, and dive in to your own life and activities and family and friends, and try to steer as clear from him as possible!!!

Post # 328
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

You did the right thing and now you can focus on yourself and later finding your soul mate, who loves respects and cherishs YOU and puts YOU first above and beyond all other people and things.

Post # 329
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

{{{Big Hugs}}} You did the right thing.  I’m proud of you.

Post # 330
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You absolutely did the right thing he was obviously not over her or he would have no problem cutting her out of his life because making you at ease should have come first. You are so strong for walking away and you deserve way better than what he did to you and now you can find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You’re worth more than that and don’t ever forget it

Post # 331
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@Bram- I know this is a difficult time for you but I wanted to say good for you. Good for you for standing up for yourself, what you believe in and your future…and sanity.

Your ex showed so little respect for you that he took her home after a game, after you had a huge life changing fight about this beyatch, he continued to speak/see her, it’s disgusting.

As much as it hurts right now, I am SO glad you ended it and I know you will find someone better who doesn’t let his family or ex’s walk all over you/your relationship or come before you in his life.

Best of luck.

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