(Closed) Please help me out here: Is it normal to think this way? Sex with BF only?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it important to have sex with more then one person before settling down?

    Yes, you need that experience, or you'll resent your partner in the future.

    No, as long as you're in love with your current partner.

    It doesn't matter.

  • Post # 31
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    Cait.Marie:  I feel the same way in regards to shuddering at the thought of sleep with another man. That’s a good thing! 🙂

    Post # 32
    3584 posts
    Sugar bee

    If the sex is good now and you continue to work on it and try new things you shouldn’t worry about it. You test drove it and it’s good (iam assuming) so now you buy it unless you are having second thoughts. Plus when you are older and love someone it’s not the sex you are with them for. If sex is really your concern than maybe you should figure out what is really important. If you wanna explore go explore because it would really suck if you decided to explore later on in life. You ask this question and each response will be different.  What it really comes down to is, do you think it’s important? Some Bee’s are content with having one partner all their life other have been through so much and are happy with what they have. You can’t really base this off of other peoples views. We all have different morals and been through different situations in life which led us to where we are at now with our SO.

    Post # 33
    709 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Mine situation is a bit different. I WAS saving it….and then was stupid and lost it to a guy I thought was “the one”. Three years out of that abusive relationship and I decided I didn’t care. I messed around a couple of times with different people (never had sex with them) and I always ended up stopping it. This was during my college years and I had felt the pressure. Fiance is only the second person I’ve had sex with it and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I had a friend who was pretty crazy in college and settled down after and she always said she wished she hadn’t messed around with so many people (one of her partners had been cheating and she actually ended up with a life-long STD). She now has to tell any partner she gets that she has it. Luckily she’s engaged to a good guy, but that took some work because she found a couple of guys who would use her (she understood if they didn’t want to have sex with her, so they’d use it as an excuse to make her the side girl who pleasures them, but wouldn’t actually sleep with her). Just to show you “grass isn’t always greener”. 

    Post # 37
    3728 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    smoocherific:  This. Exactly.

    Post # 38
    390 posts
    Helper bee

    Having been with a couple partners before my Fiance I can say that though I don’t regret it, or really care I have for that matter, I sometimes wish we were each others “only”.

    It’s just really special, it makes for a very healthy sexual relationship, and you never have to wonder if you aren’t as good, and he never has to wonder either.

    Believe me, if you randomly slept with someone else you would just feel kind of icky, IMO. Sex is special when theres an emotional connection, which you seem to have, and have a physical connection for 20 minutes with someone else isn’t going to make your life any better. 

    Post # 39
    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I agree with what some other people have said!  It’s not a problem right now, so don’t worry about it right now.  You’re currently at your most sexually hormonal age and still aren’t yearning for another man after 2+ years of being together!  That’s fabulous!  You know how it is, when you’re 17 you can’t stop thinking about sex.  Sure, from time to time you may think “what if”…and that’s natural for anyone, but regret is a much stronger feeling than that.  If you are close to college graduation and both of you still aren’t yearning for another partner, then odds are you won’t regret not having another partner.  When you get toward your late 20s, your sex drive will gradually start to decline, anyway, so your likelihood to yearningly desire someone else will also decline.

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