- 6 years ago
I posted before about my husband’s issues with sex, a combination of low testosterone and ED. Since married 8 months ago, we have barely been able to have sex. Everything else in our marriage is good but that is the one area we are having major issues with unfortunately over the years he has developed ED and his drive has gone down the drain. He didn’t used to be this way several years ago. I thought things would improve with time, but they have not.
Now I am at the age where I am really feeling baby fever. People are even asking/hinting at me sometimes if I might be pregnant or will be soon. The fact is that I know in it is 100% impossible for me to be pregnant (since we literally have not had sex in months, even though we tried a few times). This whole thing is so devastating to me. I can’t even feel the HOPE of having a child because we aren’t doing anything that might bring that hope. When people hint or joke about this stuff I visibly get upset/irritated. I can’t help it. They then assume I just do not want to be pregnant at all or have kids.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t talk to anyone about this. I fear that if I tell my husband my worries/concerns about the future he will feel worse about hsi condition (he already feels bad enough).
He does have a doctor’s appointment coming up but in the past he has chosen to keep waiting to get better rather than start treatment (as in, he has twice seen a specialist in the past 5 months, but each time he told me that he would like to wait to get better on his own because he’s so young, and I agreed). But now he says he is at a point where he will have to start some type of treatment because he literally has no drive. I’m glad he is willing to do so but in my heart I am also so scared–what if he does the treatment and he never gets better.
I can’t stand the idea of a life of no children, no sexual intimacy. I also cannot stand the idea of being without him. He is the love of my life.
I need some honest advice here on what to do–if anything. Please help me.