(Closed) Please Help Me with invite wording!!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

So, you’re trying to figure out how to count children and their ages for meals? Could you leave a little line on your RSVP for “Number of Children Ages 0-3 Attending” and “Number of Children Ages 3-12 Attending” or something like that?

Post # 4
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

For the invites, I would just put “The So&So Family” which indicates that the whole family is included.

 Is there a buffet for the adults too, or are they getting a served meal? If the adults are eating at a buffet, I wouldn’t bother putting anything further than “are you coming?” on the RSVP. But if the adults are getting a served meal they have to pick, and the kids are getting a buffett, I would just add a “child’s meal” choice for them to select. Most parents know that 12 is the cut off age for “child.” I would ask your mom or someone in the know who has kids under 3.

Good luck!

Post # 6
11482 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Don’t worry. There is a very simple solution to this.  You invite the children by name on the INNER envelopes of your invitaitons. (The outer envelopes are addressed only to the adult members of the household.)

Example of outer envelope: 
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
(If the wife hyphenates her name, or has kept her maiden name, follow the specific guidelines for that.)

Example of an inner envelop:
Mr. and Mrs. Doe (no first names of adults on the inner envelope)
Miss Jillian Doe
Master Jared Doe
Miss Justina Doe

On your response cards, all you need is the following:


____ will attend  ____ unable to attend

If you receive a reponse that indicates the family is attending, count all of the children toward your childrens’ buffet head count.  If some members of the family are attending and others are not, that is incumbant upon the guest to tell you.  For example, if only Mrs. Doe and Miss Justina Doe are attending, she should write Jane Doe and Justina Doe on the blank line.

If, for any reason, you should receive a response card that is very ambiguous or offers confusing or conflicting information, you may call the guest to clarify if the entire family will be able to share your special day or if only certain members will be able to be there.

(I should note that, regardless of how formal or informal your wedding may be, the languge above is considered to be proper etiquette for addressing a wedding invitation.)



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