Post # 1

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Bumble bee
HI bees I need your help!
I’m totally stunned as to when I should send out invites and set my RSVP date. I’m getting married December 17th, and I want adequate amount of time to allow my caterer and cake person to know the total amount of people, etc. I don’t want to be pulling my hair out 2 weeks before trying to see who’s coming and who isn’t, so do you have any suggestions as to when I should send out invites and what date I should put on my RSVP’s?
Post # 3

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Sugar Beekeeper
Our invites went out last week for our October 7th wedding which was right around 3 months before. We gave our guests a September 1st RSVP deadline since that would give me time to track down the jerks who don’t bother to reply. I think a lot of people send the invites out 2 months prior but if you have them ready to go sooner (like we did), I don’t see any harm in giving your guests a little extra notice.
Post # 4

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Bee Keeper
I’d probably send them out 10 weeks before the date, with an RSVP deadline 5 weeks before the date.
Did you send STDs so people already know when it is?
Post # 5

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Honey bee
I sent some of mine yesterday, and will be sending this rest this weekend. 3 months before the wedding. And we put our RSVP date as September 16th which gives the guests about 8 weeks to respond, and just over 4 weeks for us to figure out last minute stuff. I’m hoping anyone who says no will send theirs back sooner so I can start inviting the ‘B’ list before the RSVP by date.
Post # 6

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Bumble bee
thanks girls for the help! I at least have an idea as to when I need to send them out and set an RSVP date. We sent out save the dates about a month or month and a half ago, so everyone does know when it is for sure (unless they didn’t pay attention lol) But I kinda figured that you would want everyone to RSVP about 8wks before but my mom thought that was way too much time, and I tried telling her it wasnt, I want to make sure I have enough time to handle the idiots who dont respond that I know are coming, and all of that lol.