(Closed) PLEASE HELP! My TOXIC older Sister and Her friends are THREATENING ME!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee

OMG.  I am so sorry.  Your sister sounds toxic.  I don’t have any words of advice for you really.  Just protect yourself and stay away.  Your mental health is valuable and it’s hard to repair, even if you know your sister is being vicious and toxic when she says/does such horrible things to you. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You can set FB so that only friends can message you. Block and drop any of her friends. If someone contacts you again, tell them you will be forwarding all messages to the police. They’re harassing you and that’s not legal. 

Is the rest of your family in the picture? If so, can you talk to them about keeping her away from you? 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

(((HUGS))) you sister sounds extremely toxic, but also REALLY JELOUS! Typically when people try to make you feel bad about yourself, they envy you and are miserable in their own lives. I would stay as far away as possible from her. However you should always remind yourself that you are not the cause of all the drama and her misery. I hope everything works out for you!

Post # 6
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You need to get a TPO against her so that you have legal documentation of her harassment. It will protect you in the future.]

 

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Holy WOW I’m horrified that people actually act that way. I agree that you should drop all these bitches from your friends list, and make sure you have your wall, friends and posts all set to private from friends of friends, public, etc… and I would say you probably need to cut your “sister” out of your life if you ever want to have any type of normalcy without her insecure and totally insane behavior threatening you. What on EARTH!? Just remember that this is HER issue not yours! And you can’t change her or her behavior, the only thing YOU can control is how you react to her.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Paigey:  Agree 100%. Let’s see how much her and her friends are laughing at you when you get the law involved.

They sound like miserable people. I would just cut off all contact with all of them. They clearly add nothing to your life and only bring drama.

Post # 9
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It sounds like maybe she is jealous of you. And to make herself feel better she has to put you down.very horrible and at one time in my life my sister was very verbally abusive to me so I know how damaging it can be. I suggest getting yourself counseling, and just remember karma. One day her own child will be so embarrassed by her behavior she will disown her, and seek refuge in a great aunt. Until then there’s not much you can do. Block all of her friends and get a new phone number. If youfear it may be violent you could also get a restraining order, abuse is abuse and she is being harassing. It sounds like your family may be on your side so she’s only embarrassing herself to the people that actually matter.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I had to cut my sister from my life because of what she was doing/saying as well. It’s sad really that you need to protect yourself (mentally, physically,etc) from a family member but sometimes it’s the only thing you can do…especially when she seems to stir up a ‘mob’ mentality in her friends. Privacy settings can be changed on fb so only friends can see/post and you can completely block specific people if need be. I do agree with PP that said you should show this to authorities because of the libel and threats.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your sister sounds seriously aggressive. The only way to respond is to cut her out of your life entirely / take a print out of the messages to the police / contact facebook and report both your sister and her friends. Whatever her issue is, you don’t deserve this kind of behaviour.

EDIT: “I am an attractive young woman, in great shape…And being called gross by women who don’t shower, and are at LEAST 40 pounds overweight! The Humanity…..With the greatest respect, be careful about writing things like this. Being 40 lbs overweight doesn’t make someone gross.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I would cut her out of your life asap. Sister or not anyone intentionally trying to use lies about you to destroy you relationship, ruin jobs and destroy self esteem should be as far away from your life as possible. Honestly she sounds like an unstable sociopath along with her friends. Keep them away and I’d involve the police too if neccessary. So sorry!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yikes! Be careful. Her “pranks” don’t seem funny or harmless but it’s impressive that you were able to forgive. I believe everyone who says to document ALL of this in the event you need to use it in the future. Your sister sounds unstable, and you never know how this could turn out. Turn to the police if it gets any worse. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Ummmm I would cut her off completely from my life if I was in shoes. I do not care if she is family. As far as your nephew that is something that you will also have to do away with. It is prob. better that you do not get too attached to the baby for your own good. She might try to use him against you like she has done so far. If your parents get to babysit then you could drop by when she is not there.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

@ticatica     EDIT: “I am an attractive young woman, in great shape…And being called gross by women who don’t shower, and are at LEAST 40 pounds overweight! The Humanity…..With the greatest respect, be careful about writing things like this. Being 40 lbs overweight doesn’t make someone gross.

I do not think she is calling people who are 40+ lb overweight. She is simply saying that Someone who is not clean and overweight is bashing her and talking bad about her.

@ GoldenBeauty2202012 Keep your head up! They are probably acting up because of jealousy. Which also sounds like a issue your sister had against you.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG!! Just wanted to send you hugs and I hope things will get better for you

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