- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Hey Bee’s, my older sister and I have ALWAYS had a rocky relationship.
Here’s a little background. She’s 24. I am 21. I recently bought a house away from her because she is a VERY, EXTREMELY toxic person. She has called the police and blamed things on me, for something that happened when I wasn’t even in town at the time, she has called my other jobs and said I stole even though I haven’t, and I had an investigation launched, which all proved that “someone” was just trying to get me fired. ETC, she has even prank called my Fiance and had her friends say I slept around and that I should get checked for STD’s! When I was still a VIRGIN! MIND YOU THESE ARE LADIES THAT ARE 24-28 YEARS OLD!!!!! She’s THAT Kind of sister. I have since forgiven her, but kept her at a distance because I have been bullied to the point where I feel suicidal, and so depressed I can’t stop crying all the time.
So here’s what happened, I have a full time job that requires ALL of my time. She just had a baby in January so she is a stay at home mother. I had hopes that having a baby would force her to grow up, because even though she is older than I, she acts catty and childish, and seemingly LOOKS for reasons to start fights with people, ESPECIALLY ME. Today she wrote me on Facebook out of nowhere, saying I’m not “worthy” of being in her bridal party, and that I should hate myself, etc. She also said things like I’m “fake” and her and her friends make fun of me all the time. I forwarded the messages to my best friend to ask her advice. Because I read and reread the messages and I couldnt figure out what I said or did wrong. I graciously, and maturely told her she should pick whomever she wants in her bridal party, etc. I was very obviously NOT looking for an argument. She obviously was. The fight on her side escalated, to the point where she said I could never see my nephew because she doesnt want him to know me, how Im a b*tch, everyone hates me, etc. She said a few more terrible things and then blocked me so I couldnt reply. My best friend took a look at the messages and was APPAULD at my sister’s behavior, saying she probably needs more counseling than she can afford. A few moments later, my sister’s friends started writing me on my facebook wall, bashing me, calling me a whore (when I’ve only ever been with my fiance), fake, disgusting, gross, etc. I am an attractive young woman, in great shape…And being called gross by women who don’t shower, and are at LEAST 40 pounds overweight! The Humanity!
I just sat there and stared at all their messages feeling completely broken. I had to block them all and put my facebook to where no one could post on my wall but me, but even then..I feel paranoid that I will open my facebook to see a new message.
I should have you know my sister has tried counseling, but she felt it was a “waste of time”. She’s always been a drama queen and my fiance thinks her anger is directed towards me because my life is going somewhere and she spends all her day at her boyfriends house taking care of her baby. I have no idea how to deal with this…HELP!