(Closed) PLEASE help re. start time on invitations

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i wouldnt list the start time on the invites for 15 minutes before the real start time.  it is a bit rude to make the people that made it a point to show up early/on time for the wedding to wait around a really long time.  maybe include an insert with your invitations with all the information?  i would definitely include it on your website if you have one.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I basically posted this on your other thread. But I would say the ceremony starts  when it actually starts (2pm).  Then I would put on the insert with the hotel info and and directions etc.  something like, “Don’t let the distance fool you.  With NYC traffi it will take 25 minutes from XYZ hotel to get to the ceremony.”  “From hotel ABC it will likely take 30 minutes.” 

If you want to tack on 5 minutes more than will typically take people, fine.  Then I would also add the info on your website.  To remind folks when they get into town, I would leave them Out of Town bags and put an insert with the directions and info in the bag.  There’s only so much you can do.  (But I appreciate it’s one of those wedding day nightmares, like the cake falling or something.)  But I would just gently give them the information on the time, and leave it at that.  Some ppl might end up being late, regardless of what you do.  And you don’t have to eat $100.  You can start the ceremony, if the stragglers haven’t made it on time.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Tell them the REAL start time on the invite

START ON TIME! It isn’t your fault if your guests aren’t responsible/mature/intelligent enough to have the foresight to plan ahead

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Ohhh.  That does make it more difficult.  So how far would you say your guests are traveling to make it to the church on time?

Is there some place (a relative’s home, or a restaurant) you guests can meet for lunch, before the wedding?  Someplace close to the ceremony?  I’m sure not all guests will bite.  But you might get enough to be interested, to give you peace of mind.  And they might like this, as they can venture into this “strange new city” together.  Perhaps a guest who is familiar with the city can be there to join them and keep everything “on track”.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2007

I attended a wedding 2 years ago, and when I arrived 30 min. before the time listed on the invite, there was no one around. Guests started trickling in, and half an hour later we all finally learned that the couple listed the start time a full hour before the actual start time of the wedding. Which means I showed up 1 and 1/2 hours early. I was beyond furious. The bride told many of her guests, but not all of them. Needless to say we are no longer friends (one of many reasons)

You are not in charge of your guests. They are all (hopefully) responsible adults and can decide for themselves when to leave. I do think that including a seperate insert with a note about travel times and a map of the area and location of ceremony site would be helpful.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

yeah.  i’m sorry that you have to worry about something like this.  i think you’re idea of giving a time estimate from the main locations is a good idea.  

the best thing you can do is to give the guests the tools to know how to arrive on time.  after that it’s up to them.  i wouldn’t wait for late guests when starting the ceremony.  it’s your ceremony.  just be sure to have some ushers that stay in the back to help anyone that does arrive late.

i’m sure the day of, things will go fine.  🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee

On my invites I put it started at 3:45 instead of 4pm 🙂 We’ll see how that works out!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I think your venue is freaking you out unnecessarily.  There’s no reason your ceremony can’t start on time even if people do come in late.  Your guests will want to be there on time without you reminding them (this is mostly in regards to the note you proposed in your other post), so you can just do your best to help them get a realistic sense of how long it will take to get there.  I like everyones’ suggestions to give travel estimates if you can, or to simply circulate by word-of-mouth that traffic will be a pain.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Maybe you can include a map with your invitations with the suggested traveling distances on it from different parts of town.  Also could you post some signs around campus directing people to the ceremony location?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Put the real time on your invitations.  @Tanya123 has great suggestions above.

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