Post # 1
We’ve found a perfect venue – the only one big enough for our 200 guests and within our budget – but some dates have already been snapped up for Christmas 2013.
we would ideally want a Saturday wedding, but the only Saturday available is the 21st.
our next choice would be a Friday (at least most people will already be off on the Saturday to recover). For Fridays they have the 13th and the 20th available – we really don’t want the 13th for obvious reasons!!
the NEXT preference would be for a Thursday. The choices are the 5th (my birthday – I don’t mind this idea), the 12th (both of our dad’s birthdays – we don’t really like the idea of this as we feel it should be a day for ‘us’) or the 19th. we’re not so keen on the thursday idea because we feel like it’s an inconvenience for people having to book probably two days off.
Our gut feeling is that the 20th or 21st would be the nicest BUT a) is it too close to Christmas? Will people be too busy/rushed to come? And b) two of my uncles and their wives + children will have to fly over from Ireland (to Uk). they would have almost a whole year to arrange to get over here and hopefully flights or ferries will be more affordable to far in advance, but is it unfair for me to ask? It is really important for me that they’re there, and they could come over on the afternoon before and leave the day after so be back in Ireland on the 21st or 22nd December.
Post # 3
I much prefer Saturday weddings over any other day so my first choice would be the 21st. I personally don’t think that’s too close to Christmas. Friday weddings are especially hard for people having to come from out of town.
Post # 4
i would prefer a saturday wedding as well. the 21st would be my choice. what a nice way to start the holiday festivities.
question: do your friends and family go away for the xmas break? will they be available?
Post # 5
It’s REALLY pricey to fly over the holidays. This year, anything after the 18th was double. If they book far enough in advance it will be cheaper but will they be able to confirm exact time off/flight dates over 4 months in advance? Or if they stay for the festivities instead of flying back on the 22nd, is someone willing to host them? Whenever my European relatives came over around Christmas, they were here from ~the 15th to the 7th (this year flights dropped again about the 8th of january). For one or two people, it’s not a huge deal, but since you said they also have kids…
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I say the saturday, but send out your Save-The-Date Cards tomorrow.
Post # 7
@Me_and_MrJones: 13 is actually a very lucky number…and the flights will be cheaper for people if you choose that date.
Post # 8
A Friday or Saturday wedding is much better logistically for your guests than a Thursday wedding. I voted the 21st; don’t worry about it being close to a holiday. I was married a few days after the 4th of July, our Independence Day and now I get to associate that holiday with my wedding and each anniversary with the love of my life. Almost makes the holiday season a little more sweet and special each year! Plus our family was around for the holiday and stayed for the wedding, so 2 birds one stone if you will. (2 events, one trip!) I say go for it! 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think Saturday weddings are definitely the most convenient for everyone involved. But if you choose to do it that close to Christmas, just don’t be offended if a number of folks can’t make it! A LOT of people go out of town or country for the holidays, at least the folks I know. Even getting a STD early probably wouldn’t change that for me, unless you were close family or a super good friend :/
Post # 10
To be honest, if I was a invited to your wedding, I wouldn’t attend any of those dates. I think it’s a bit rude personally to have a wedding that close to Christmas, because that it the only time of year I get to go visit my own family, so I will not give that up for anyone’s wedding except maybe my sister or my very best friend. Not to mention the cost and hassle to travel that week.
And I would not be able to attend a Thursday wedding that time in December either. As someone who works at a University, that is finals season here, and I will likely have work obligations (proctoring exams, grading, etc).
Post # 11
I would just pick a date in January instead. Don’t co-opt people’s holiday season. December is busy enough as it is.
Post # 12
I would go with the Saturday date. By the end of the year many people will have already used up their time off, or they are already taking stuff off for the holidays so a weekday would be hard. If you send the Save-The-Date Cards very far in advance you should be fine.
Some people probably won’t attend because of holiday conflicts, but no matter what day you pick you’ll have people that can’t make it.
Post # 13
@ChemistryBride: rude? That’s a bit of an inflammatory comment to make! a wedding invite is a request not an obligation, but luckily I don’t think any of my potential guests have the attitude that you have! I think you’re also forgetting that 90% of the guests ARE family and will all be seeing each other there.
but anyway, good job you’re not invited – wouldn’t want to offend with the rudeness of my wedding date hahaha
Post # 14
Thanks everyone else for your more helpful comments though, I really do appreciate the input and its really helpful to hear from you all :xxxx
Post # 15
@mypinkshoes: apart from the Irish family, our entire families live in a 10 mile radius (apart from pernaps one or two who live a little further afield – like an hour – but are maybe a little less ‘essential’) so no, I don’t think anyone will be planning to go anywhere really!
Post # 16
I love the idea of a Friday evening wedding! I’m picturing trees with white fairy lights and evergreen boughs as decor, and a beautiful candle-lit ceremony!