Post # 1
Ok this is kind of a random relationship question but one that my Darling Husband and I have debated as long as we’ve known each other.
If you and your SO go to a party or a bar or any event, and one of you is ready to leave much earlier than the other, when do you leave?
-when the first person is ready to go
-once the other, later, person has had their fill of the event and is ready to go
-you leave separately
-you determine before hand how long the two of you will be staying
I’m curious to see if the majority agrees with me or Darling Husband. I’ll reveal my answer once there are enough votes.
Post # 3
I’m voting other. Because usually SO will be ready to go before I am, but we don’t leave right away. We stay a little bit longer but not so long that I’ve totally had my “fill”. We compromise like that.
Post # 4
we do this exact thing, too
Post # 5
same as pp. BUT we normally talk about it beforehand and pick a time to stay till so that if it’s boring (to at least one person) we leave and if not then we stay!
Post # 6
Usually we discuss how long we will stay and usually it’s him that stays longer!
Post # 7
Post # 8
We compromise. I’m usually the one who is ready to go first, but I don’t want to ruin the fun of my Darling Husband. So I’ll give him a warning that I’m ready to go “soon” so that he can wrap up his conversations and say goodbye.
Post # 9
Once one person is ready to go we’ll agree on how much longer we’re staying and leave at whatever deadline we decide to set.
ETA: I will say we stick to the timeline we agree to, theres no “ok 15 minutes” and Darling Husband disappears for an hour.
Post # 10
@LiliKitty: I’ve updated the poll with an option to reflect your answer.
Post # 11
If we are out with his friends and he wants to stay longer, we leave separately If we are there with my friends and I want to stay we either compromise and he’ll stay a bit longer (and we’ll leave together) or he’ll go home before me.
He is usually one to stay out later, especially with his friends so I would often go home before him. I have no problem with it.
If he only wants to stay out a little longer than I do with his friends, then we’ll compromise and I’ll stay. But it’s usually a matter of 2+ hours when he wants to stay out longer than I do.
Post # 12
@Meowkers: Aww, too bad I can’t revote otherwise I would. I’m sure others will choose it though.
Post # 13
If one of us is ready to go way before the other, then we leave separately. But most of the time, we hang out until we’re both ready to go, unless one person is completely miserable, in which case we leave early!
Post # 14
Fiance and I always set forth a time limit we want to stay before we get to the social function. When that time comes up, we check in with each other. If we both want to stay, we stay. If one is closer to leaving then the other, we usually wait it out another half hour.
Luckily, we’re always on the same page when we’re ready to leave. It’s rather uncanny.
Post # 15
I voted determine before hand how long the two of you will stay at the event ..only because usually he will say ” I only want to stay till about 11 or 12″ and I say okay if Im ready lol..But usually I feel bad because he works all the time so I dont want to keep him up to late haha
Post # 16
It depends, 9 times out of 10 when the first person wants to leave we will leave. The other times when someone really does not want to leave yet then we agree on a time we will stay until and then leave then. If we have seperata transformation, sometimes one will leave on their own – but that isn’t too often.