(Closed) Please help us settle this relationship "disagreement"

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When do you leave an event?
    When the first person is ready to leave : (49 votes)
    13 %
    Once the other, later, person has had their fill of the event and is ready to go : (14 votes)
    4 %
    You leave separately : (20 votes)
    5 %
    You determine before hand how long the two of you will stay at the event : (64 votes)
    17 %
    Other (PLEASE share how you solve this issue) : (20 votes)
    5 %
    A little while after the first person is ready but not as long as the 2nd person would like : (218 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m voting other. Because usually SO will be ready to go before I am, but we don’t leave right away. We stay a little bit longer but not so long that I’ve totally had my “fill”. We compromise like that.

    Post # 5
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    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    same as pp. BUT we normally talk about it beforehand and pick a time to stay till so that if it’s boring (to at least one person) we leave and if not then we stay! 

    Post # 6
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Usually we discuss how long we will stay and usually it’s him that stays longer!

    Post # 8
    Member
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We compromise. I’m usually the one who is ready to go first, but I don’t want to ruin the fun of my Darling Husband. So I’ll give him a warning that I’m ready to go “soon” so that he can wrap up his conversations and say goodbye. 

    Post # 9
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Once one person is ready to go we’ll agree on how much longer we’re staying and leave at whatever deadline we decide to set.

    ETA: I will say we stick to the timeline we agree to, theres no “ok 15 minutes” and Darling Husband disappears for an hour.

    Post # 11
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It depends…

    If we are out with his friends and he wants to stay longer, we leave separately If we are there with my friends and I want to stay we either compromise and he’ll stay a bit longer (and we’ll leave together) or he’ll go home before me.

    He is usually one to stay out later, especially with his friends so I would often go home before him. I have no problem with it. 

    If he only wants to stay out a little longer than I do with his friends, then we’ll compromise and I’ll stay. But it’s usually a matter of 2+ hours when he wants to stay out longer than I do.

    Post # 12
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Meowkers:  Aww, too bad I can’t revote otherwise I would. I’m sure others will choose it though.

    Post # 13
    Member
    13014 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If one of us is ready to go way before the other, then we leave separately.  But most of the time, we hang out until we’re both ready to go, unless one person is completely miserable, in which case we leave early!

    Post # 14
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    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Fiance and I always set forth a time limit we want to stay before we get to the social function. When that time comes up, we check in with each other. If we both want to stay, we stay. If one is closer to leaving then the other, we usually wait it out another half hour.

    Luckily, we’re always on the same page when we’re ready to leave. It’s rather uncanny.

    Post # 15
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    1417 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

     I voted  determine before hand how long the two of you will stay at the event ..only because usually he will say ” I only want to stay till about 11 or 12″ and I say okay if Im ready lol..But usually I feel bad because he works all the time so I dont want to keep him up to late haha

    Post # 16
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It depends, 9 times out of 10 when the first person wants to leave we will leave.  The other times when someone really does not want to leave yet then we agree on a time we will stay until and then leave then.  If we have seperata transformation, sometimes one will leave on their own – but that isn’t too often.

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