(Closed) Please help… wedding a no go.

posted 12 years ago in Los Angeles
Post # 17
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Caliotech:   Your In-N-Out idea is genious!  I spent a couple of years in LA after college and even though it’s only 8:30am here in the East, all I can think about now, is a In-N-Out burger and their freshly made fries.  I remember a friend hiring them for a big party once and I think it was about $500 for the entire thing!  Which would be pretty affordable (especially for wedding reception catering!)    Plus, they have a catering truck (the Cookout Trailer) so everything is prepared to order and they’ll go anywhere.

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I just took a look at their web-site and they don’t do fries on the cook out trailer.  sad   but everything else would still be yummy!

Post # 19
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107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Mrsatobe,

I am getting excited about your LA beach wedding with in-and-out burgers (or whatever you decide to do).  To bad I live all the way on the East coast, or I would totally crash your party. 

For dresses, also consider looking for things off the rack.  I actually bought my wedding dress at macy’s for $60, and it really looks like it could have come from a bridal store.  It is an ivory colored prom dress that was like 75% off, so while there are no guarantees you can find a cheap dress, it doesn’t hurt to look around and try to find sales.  And also there are a lot of stores with summery, lightweight style white dresses that would be perfect for a casual beach or park wedding in September, so watch for these to go on sale.  Even though jcrew is expensive, they have some beach dresses that usually sell for $100, but if you keep looking, they do go on sale periodically. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

Mrsatobe –

 I don’t have anything useful to add (except that I loveee the idea of a beach wedding & bbq), just wanted to send lots of good thoughts and love your way! Your post really brings me back to earth and realize what’s important (marrying the man you love with the people you love around you) and what’s not. Goodluck with whatever you do, I’m sure it will be beautful and full of love! 🙂

 

lisa 

Post # 22
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192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

mrsatobe…

Wish I could give you a hug. I understand because we were/are in the same sort of situation.  We’ve been engaged for a year. We’re both older (44 & 39) and we thought we had this wedding thing down pat. And then… I had an accident. I fell out of the back of a truck on the highway at 50 mph and no health insurance.

Our wedding fund went to hospital bills and doctors teaching me how to walk again. 

Out the window flew our formal dinner and huge reception with mariachi’s (I’m spanish) great favors, etc. But you know what?  It didn’t matter. My Fiance stayed by my side and took care of me. He didn’t get "freaked" and walk away when I truly believe anyone who didn’t love me as much as he does, would have. (I got sick of dealing with myself!)

At first we canceled everything. And now we’re going to go through with our ceremony and have a small dance.  

If anything after all we’ve been through while I’ve been healing it’s made our ceremony incredibly more important than it started out to  be.

We found a golf course grill with amazing views that we could rent for $500. And I found a DJ at a bridal fair that gave me a heck of a deal (for our area) $100 per hour flat rate. No deposit, no minimum to meet, no travel/mileage fee. No, we’re not having a signature drink, a candy bar, etc… we’re having a cash bar for anyone who wants to drink liquor. Otherwise we’re providing soft drinks/tea/punch, wedding cake and that’s it. oh, and we’re going to a local resturant to eat (my Fiance and I) after the wedding. If anyone wants to join us there, we would love for the to come, but yes, they will each have to pay for their own.

We’ve had people tell us they aren’t coming for various reasons "You aren’t having a dinner"  "There is too big of a gap between the wedding and the reception"  "You aren’t having any pre-wedding festivities"  I finally just vented in our blog about what was happening with us when I was fed up with hearing the snide remarks. http://ed-debi.weddingannouncer.com  (look at the April 28th post)

The people who TRULY LOVE you and your Fiance will be there NO MATTER WHAT AND WHERE. And that’s what it’s all about. Being surrounded by the people who love and will truly support you.  The people who have  and are "there" for us, understand and think it’s great we’re going to a resturant after our ceremony and are more than willing to come and pay for their own.

It goes against everything any ettiquite book ever said. I put no dinner on our invitations and cash bar also so our guests knew EXACTLY what was going to occur. Some say it was wrong to do that. I don’t care. I know it was RIGHT FOR US.

And I have things left from our "what was to be" reception that we aren’t using. I know it’s not much, but I would love to send you what you can use that way you don’t have to pay for something I can’t use that you can and that money can go toward your wedding fund or your parents.

so pm me. It will all be okay. Trust me. And it will mean even that much more to you.

Hugs and love from one Colorado Bride to a VERY SPECIAL California Bride. ;*

 

 

Post # 23
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I’m sorry to hear of your plight…I know it’s heartbreaking and frustrating, but it doesn’t have to be the end. I agree with what several posters have already said. Look into having your ceremony/reception at a beach, or park or civic/recreational center.  When I was looking for a venue, I came accross a lot of parks that charged little of nothing to have ceremony/ and or receptions there. Some charged even less if you were a resident of the area that the park is located. 

http://www.laparks.org/

http://www.lacountyparks.org/

http://www.laconservancy.org is another site that I looked on that had a lot of park/beach locations. Click on "historic sites for special events" at the very bottom of the page.

If you are looking for a very inexpensive catering option, http://www.stonefiregrill.com can cater for $7 p/p.  Or you can have a potluck – or maybe you provide the main dishes and you ask your family to provide side dishes? Keep us posted on your progress…it will all work out beautifully!

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