(Closed) Please help with my bridesmaids quandary :) (long)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How many bridesmaids?
    Three : (15 votes)
    52 %
    Five : (14 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
    1272 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted on 3, which is how many I had in a similar size wedding as yours, also in Aus. I couldn’t imagine trying to organise dresses and plans with more than 3, and loved having just my closest girls (2 sisters and best friend).

    Could your other friends do jobs like be the MC or do readings, or whatever instead? We asked one of hubby’s friends who *could* have been a groomsmen to MC for us, and I think he ended up with a bigger role than the actual groomsmen anyway! And I felt a bit bad that my sil wasn’t in the wedding, but she became our “day of” coordinator and was awesome, so much help, and highly involved.

    Post # 4
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Ultimately, it’s your wedding. If there are friends that you want standing by you–they should be standing by you. Don’t worry about what other people think. Ask yourself–will I regret it if they aren’t standing by me on my wedding day? If so, include them! 

    Post # 5
    5064 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I voted for five, have all your most loved girls. It’s the best day of your life, have ’em all! 

    Post # 6
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Catcat1:  Have the other 2 girls act as usherettes, to help your guests find their seats. They could even wear the same dresses as the bridesmaids; that’s what usherettes do where I live.

    Even if they’re not bridesmaids, even if they have no special part in your wedding, definitely include them in everything as you would your bridesmaids. They can help with the showers if they want, they should be invited to all of your parties, and maybe you can even get ready with them the day of the wedding. That way you’ll have them in your wedding photos; it’ll be something nice to look back on in the future.

    Post # 8
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Ask them to be bridesmaids, i feel you may regeret not asking if you don’t. Its YOUR day, do as you please, regardless of others opinions. Its nobody elses business. All the best.


    Post # 10
    3082 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Catcat1:  I’ve seen people have like 8 bms. If just do what you want. If youre not as close with the best friend, why don’t you have the other 2 friends be bm and not her? Or do you HAVE to pick the best friend? 

    Post # 12
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It’s your wedding! I think you should have as many bridesmaids up there next to you as you want. I have 5 bridesmaids in my wedding and I really think it’s the perfect number. I’ve been to other weddings where there have been 5 bridesmaids to 10 (whoa!) I guess it depends on how many groomsman your fiance has and if you want it to be the same number? 

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