Post # 1
I’m seeking help from the bees on my registry and what I should include/not include.
We are inviting quite a few guests (more than 300). Most are from my fiancé’s side and he says they tend to give cash as wedding gifts. My family prefers to give physical gifts and my aunts have generously offered to host a shower for me. Initially, we were not going to register but so many people have already asked us about registry and gifts we decided to go ahead and do it.
The main thing we would really like for wedding gifts are kitchen stuff, a matched set of everyday dishes, and a matched set of more formal dishes. Wine glasses that all match each other would also be amazing. So, we mainly included dishes and cookware, with the second main category being linens and bathroom stuff. I figure we can use the registry completion discount to buy anything we did not receive but still need.
According to the registry guides, we don’t have enough items selected. However, we are struggling to come up with more things. My fiancé and I don’t really want to keep adding more things just for the sake of adding them, and we also don’t want to seem “gift-grabby.” I am considering even taking some items off. Would this bother you as a guest if you saw a registry with almost entirely glassware/dishes and kitchen items?
Here is my breakdown in price. We are registered at 2 stores (Bed, Bath, and Beyond and Bloomingdale’s)
Under $25 83 items
25-50 58 items
50-100 83 items
100-150 25 items
150-200 18 items
200+ 7 items
Post # 2
We’re expecting 150-180 guests and the registry guy at Bed, Bath and Beyond told us to shoot for the guest count times three!! So that’d be 450 items for us (and 900 for you!). Granted, this includes individual items (i.e. each individual plate in our dinner set). We still only managed to register for about 150 items total. I figure there’s not point in registering for stuff we don’t need just to meet that quota. We have zero room to store anything extra. Like you, many of our guests prefer to give cash and our registry is mostly kitchen stuff. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. People can always buy gifts not on the registry if they’re dead set on giving a physical gift instead of money and they’re unhappy with the gifts you’ve asked for.
ETA… it looks like you’ve divided up price points well!
Post # 3
I think you’ve got a great variety, and I wouldn’t worry too much about having too many items. It gives guests so much more to choose from and the freedom to select within their budget. I’ve often gone to someone’s registry to find that they have 10 items on there, all purchased, so I’m doing the same as you and putting more than we need. We have a honeymoon fund for the guests we know prefer to give cash or an ‘experience’ gift.
Post # 4
mgrd7531 : Thank you! Yes, even if every teacup and saucer are their own “thing” my Fiance and I would not be able to come up with 900 items lol.
I am glad you think what we came up with is okay and that the price breakdown looks good! I tried to include some smaller/inexpensive items that would work well alone or in sets so that guests can group them together according to their budget.
Post # 5
rojo : Thank you. That helps me feel a lot less worried! I definitely don’t want someone to go on and find that everything within their price range was already purchased.
BBB goes a little crazy with the number of each item they recommend but it is good to have a variety for sure.
Post # 6
As a guest, I find a limited registry more frustrating than a big one. Variety of products and price points is a good thing because it lets your guests pick out what they want to give you. Don’t sweat it! Your registry seems very reasonable.
Post # 7
sparkosity : Thank you.
To be honest, I am very self conscious about asking for gifts of any kind. This post is putting my mind at ease because I was worried the guests might go on and see a long list of things and think we are expecting to receive all of them. In reality the things like the Le Crueset cookware- while I would be extremely grateful to receive it- I really put it on the registry with the idea that we may buy it afterward for a discount. Same with the more expensive pieces of our selected china.
Post # 8
You’re totally fine! Your list looks totally reasonable. We kept being told by our Bed Bath and Beyond registry that we didn’t have enough. But remember, it’s in their best interest for you to have more things on your registry.
You can always keep monitoring as you go along and add more things if you feel like it’s all getting bought up. That was our plan.
Post # 9
bayoubee : Thank you 🙂 I’ll keep an eye on it especially after the shower (which I anticipate is when we would get more of the little gifts) and add more if we need to.