(Closed) Please help with wording for wishing well on website!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

No.  Don’t do this.  If people want to bring you something, they’ll bring you something.  Bringing gifts to weddings isn’t some new tradition.  You think it’s rude because it is, and you would indeed be asking for money.

Just have a card box and people will put their cards in it.

Also, most people don’t ever look at wedding websites.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@weddingadvice99:  I wouldn’t.  It’s never polite to even mention gifts.  And a gift isn’t a donation.  When have you ever gone to a party and given a donation?  You’re not a charity.

Post # 7
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@weddingadvice99:  I am probably going to get a lot of crap for this, but I did do a wishing well for my shower and this was the back of the invite…

 

 

Having this at a shower might be a little different than having it at your wedding, but hope I could help a little.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@oneofthesethings:  +1

 

It’s so horribly rude to ask for money.  You might as well stand on a corner with a tin cup.

Post # 10
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960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@weddingadvice99:  I think that sounds great. A lot of Bees are very negative on requesting cash, but its fine IMO.

Post # 12
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740 posts
Busy bee

@weddingadvice99:  I’m a pretty laid-back person… that sounds very reasonable.  If I was a guest, I would appreciate knowing that info!

Post # 13
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1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What country are you both from and where’s the wedding are key factors as to whether you can get away with something like this or not.  In the US this would be very unacceptable, but in Austrailia and New Zealand wishing wells and including information on the website or in the invitation are very common.  I wouldn’t be comfortable doing something like this because I’m from the US, but perhaps where you’re from and your guests are from it’s considered acceptable and it would be okay to do.

Post # 14
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am totally having a wishing well at my wedding, i think it is a very modern idea, the days have gone where you didn’t live together until you are married so these days you don’t need 6 toasters 2 dinner sets and 4 towel bundles and i personally think asking for certain gifts is rude.

It’s your wedding so do what you like but i personally would not put it on your website i would just put it in the wedding invite or bridal shower if you’re having one (i’m english so we don’t have bridal showers).

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@weddingadvice99:  I would explain to your FH that what’s socially accepted in AU and the US are different.  Could you perhaps strike a compromise and put a wishing well insert into the AU invitiations and leave it out of the US invites?  That way you’re both satisfied.

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