Post # 1
Need Help please
I recently purchased a non-refundable dress and now I am second guessing my choice and my wedding is in 5 weeks!!!!! When I tried on the dress I felt like it looked nice and my family said they loved it. We took pictures of all the dresses I tried on that day. Unfortunately I never seen the pictures until after I purchased the dress. Now after viewing the pics I feel like this dress is sooo not doing anything for me. I am regularly a size 14, so I was trying to get a dress that complimented my body instead of make it look worse. I am not delusional about my body..I realize I am a bit bigger, but lots of curvy girls look amazing on their wedding day. I was going for an a-line or empire type dress.
I just want to feel I can look the best I can look for my body type on that day, but I feel like the dress is making me look twice the size I am and that my chest is huge. The bust line looks pointy and like a giant chest plate or something.
The dress still has to go through alterations as I am having a lace up back put in, and some of the crinoline taken out to cut down on poofiness, however the tailor says he doesn’t think there is anything he can do about the bust line. Am I jumping the gun and freaking out here and maybe the dress will be better once it is altered?
My wedding is a little over a month away, and I feel I’m going to hate the way I look, hate my dress, feel fat, etc…
Has anyone else hated their non refundable dress? Does anyone have any suggestions as to where you can find another dress last minute online or what to do? or what dress styles best suit a pear shaped curvy girl?
I am stuck as to whether to try and fix this dress or purchase another. I am on a tight budget and this will be an extra expense and time is ticking. I had a certain budget for a dress, but now if I have to buy another..i may as well have spent more the first time around instead of shopping off the rack. grr!!
I’m so confused. Any help is appreciated!!
Post # 3
@Sisaroo: Could you post some pictures, so we can see how it looks?
Post # 4
Do you have any pics to post? As far as the bust line, I’m wondering if you could take it to another seamstress to get a second opinion? You shouldn’t have to compromise on your wedding day. I am also having dress regret, so I’ll be curious to see what kind of advice you receive. From what I’ve read, consignment shops will take a large % of what you get for the dress, if anything. But if that’s the route you want to go, don’t have any alterations done! I try to remind myself that even though these wedding details seem uber-expensive right now, in the grand scheme of life, $1,000 or so right now won’t have made a huge impact on our life. If you’re in a position to take a hit and get the dress you love, do it. You don’t want to look back at pictures of the happiest day of your life and have insecurities as the first things that come to mind. I’m contemplating taking a huge hit (financially) with my regret dress, and while it seems stupid to do it, I also keep telling myself that I’m supposed to LOVE my wedding dress. If I’m not even excited about putting it on, it’s probably not the right one.
I feel your pain. Good luck!!
Post # 5
I’m sure it’s not as bad as you think! We are our own worst critics. Can you post a pic so we can help reassure you?
Post # 7
This is the dress..just looks off to me??
Post # 8
So this is another which I tried..and I like the bust..but the fit and flare didn’t compliment my wasteline so much
Post # 9
@Sisaroo: I think it looks good on you-but needs to be altered around your ta-tas. It looks a little too big in that area, then I think it’s perfect!
Post # 10
It is a really cute dress, I think the length and proportion look just fine, but I do see what you mean about the chest looking pointy. It almost looks to me like the top of the cups on the sweatheart neckline come up too far. When I see sweatheart necklines, they usually fall somewhere around the level of your armpit. It seems like a seamstress would be able to reshape the point and make it more into a curve rather than such a dramatic point? I would get a second opinion!! Very cute dress though, and I think it works nice with your body type.
Post # 11
I think the waist is too long! I think if the bodice were shorter, the neckline wouldn’t be so high (and a little bizarre)
Definitely shorten the bodice and take it in a little. It’s a STUNNING dress!
Post # 12
It’s going to be ok!
Dress regret is pretty common. I think it’s because there are just so many beautiful dresses, and then we wonder if a different dress will flatter our figures better. Would a sash or belt help? It sometimes makes the waist look smaller.
After I ordered mine, I kept wondering if there was a better one out there! Maybe something sexier! I too really wanted something that would perfectly flatter my figure. So I showed the picture to some friends and coworkers, and they all told me how pretty it was. I instantly felt better. (I love the dress, I was just being silly.)
May we see a picture? Maybe you just need us to build you back up!
EDIT- I see you added a picture while I was typing. The tea length dress is yours? I LOVE IT. Seriously! It just needs to be taken in a little around the bust. What you think matters the most, but don’t worry that it makes you look big or unpretty. It looks awesome!
Post # 13
please I really do want honesty….i feel like the dress makes me look bigger..maybe after alterations it will come together??..I don’t know.
I also really liked the tea length dresses as I am having a very informal/casual beach/outdoor wedding.
Post # 14
I think the dress is very pretty and just needs to be fitted properly. If you make the bust more like the second dress you posted it would be perfect. If your seamstress is telling you that alteration can’t be done, then get a second opinion! I’m no seamstress but it seems the bust could easily be fitted to your body.
Post # 15
Do not freak out. Alterations change everything. I promise.
That being said, your picture looks like a pretty girl in a beautiful dress that needs some tweaking.
Having a lace up back will transform the top completely in terms of fit.
Post # 16
@Sisaroo: Honestly, I think it’s super pretty and flattering. The ONLY issue I see in the photo is that it doesn’t fit you right, and I think once it’s altered it’ll be amazing!