(Closed) Please Help…..opinions and I wont be offended if you say im wrong :)

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry but I do think you’re wrong. His parents contributed too, its unfair to honour your parents and not them. When you weigh up you liking the wording vs their happiness to be included, I think they win. We’re doing “Together with their parents, H and K…”

Post # 4
293 posts
Helper bee

Why can’t you have the invitation list both sets of parents as hosts? I think that would be fair, if itwould make him feel better. And they are both hosting…

For example that I just grabbed with a 2 second google:

John and Eliza Smith
along with Mark and Sally Jacobson
invite you to share and celebrate at the marriage of their children

Post # 6
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If it’s important to him just throw in a “son of Mr. and Mrs. Blah Blah” after your wording. I don’t think the formality of the wedding matters if you’re already mentioning the bride’s parents, mentioning the grooms parents doesn’t make it any more formal. And if it’s something he thinks would be important to his side then I don’t see what the problem is.

Post # 7
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just quickly run a few wording examples by her and see if she has an opinion.  If not, go with what you want.  I do think your FI’s family deserves to be mentioned since they’re chipping in.

Post # 8
5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rolling berry: This is the way we’re doing ours.

I wanted both sets of parents names on the invite. Even though my parents are paying more than FI’s parents, and we are paying for some things ourselves. I see it as a sign of respect to include them both.


Post # 9
2 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

@K_alecia:I dont think ur wrong! I asked him what he thought, got his opinion but did how I wanted it. He doesnt even know the differance. He is just thankful that part is over with.

Post # 11
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s nice that you want to honor your father, but you shouldn’t do it at the expense of dishonoring his mother, even if she is a “roll with it” kind of person. The purpose of the wording on the invitation is to reflect who is hosting the wedding. In your case, you are all sharing the hosting duties and the invitation should be worded accordingly. You can always find another special way to honor your father that day.


Post # 13
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We have 3 sets of parents on ours – I think it looks great!

Post # 14
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do you not like ‘Together with their parents..”?? That way you are mentioning all involved parents without having to name a million people. No matter what they’re paying for- they’ve all helped you out in your lives. Its nice to honour them.

Post # 15
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t want to use the word “wrong” but I wouldn’t put your father’s name on the invite based on the contribution for the honeymoon, as generally other people would be falsely assuming only his name is on the invite because only he contributed.

Post # 16
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If his parents are kicking in financially, their names should be on the invite too.

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