(Closed) please help..very upset. need help :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m sorry that ur so upset and for losing your grandparents, but happy to hear your baby is ok after a rocky birth!

It seems as though your friend is a little stressed about her wedding planning and probably under a lot of pressure from different ppl – weddings r sometimes a stressful time! I wld take her to lunch and talk to her nicely about it: tell her how hurt u r and how u wld have liked to be part of the wedding but feel a little left out. It’s probably the case that she hasn’t realized with all the things she’s had to organize and, to her, this talk was out of left field and unexpected (although it wasn’t). She might come around when she sees your side of things.

Then I wld just give her a bit of space – maybe after her wedding and things calm down she’ll be more rational and have more time for you.

Big hugs though – I know it’s tough when these things happen!

Post # 4
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but I think that your “friend” is trying to tell you that she doesn’t want to be friends any more. If that is whats happening, I think it’s just best to not dwell on the fact, but just let it go! Try not contacting her for a while, let things cool down, and, if she wants be still be friends, let her make the first move.

People change, and just because you guys were good friends in the past doesn’t mean it will be forever.

Post # 6
8431 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@GoldfishPie:  I am not sure if not being her friend anymore is quite right but I definately think that your friend isn’t as invested in your friendship as you are. And that is perfectly understandable and you can’t be angry with her over this. It is always upsetting to find out that we aren’t as high on a friendship scale as we thought. Unfortunately this is life.

You also shouldn;t be upset over the bridesmaid thing. Disappointed sure but you picked who you wanted to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man for your wedding and she has picked who she wants as a Bridesmaid or Best Man for her wedding. Friendships shouldn;t be about tit for tat.

Look at it from her perspective- you are trying to tell her who she should have as a BM! How she should spend her time and money etc etc. Wouldn’t you also be upset if someone was trying to dictate these things for you?

I am sorry that you feel that she is in the wrong but honestly she isn’t.

Post # 7
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@crystal1978:  can you suggest meeting for coffee if you want to salvage your friendship?  It does sound weird she didnt ask but maybe she thought you would be too busy with the baby? 

Post # 9
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Super old post. LOL.

Post # 11
3303 posts
Sugar bee

@GoldfishPie:  I agree with this. It sounds like she doesn’t want to be friends any more so I would move on. Real friends are there for you as much as they want you around.

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