- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I have never done this before, but do not know who to discuss this with as I am scared to speak aloud, recognising this is a bigger problem than inital thought.
I have been with my partner for over 7 years, in those years it has been good and bad, on average like most. However I am getting married in less than four months to a man, I am looking at a person, I am genuinely worried about marrying.
In the last few months, I have notice he is more aggressive. He’s always had moments of having a ‘hot head’, but never has he physically hit me or punched me. However in the last few months, I have had moments where I have been in shock by his reactions to things. For example a few weeks ago, he was in our bed, it was late. But he was not alsleep, I came in and used the hairdryer. At which point he lost it, jumped off asked me what the f**k i was doing, snatching the dryer from me and throwing it across the room. I asked him what he was doing and he proclaimed he was sleeping and I had just woke him up…..
Today, prompting this post, I was home, due to feeling unwell and he is off, he had come downstairs, getting frustrated he couldn’t find his glasses, asking me if I had seen them. I had’nt and then he got more frustrated with things. Which at this point I got up to help him look. I found them under our bed on my side, because he stayed up later and then left them unknowingly under my side of the bed. Which from this, he got annoyed i think with himself for not looking there and tried to jokingly say it was my problem, because I put them there and slept on the side he would sleep, in all he tried to reverse the problem onto me, because he had been the idoit. To bring all this together, I got some chocolates, which he snatched from me, I told him to not snatch and held on, trying to take the box back, because of his reaction… before I could let go, he took hold of my arm and bite hard into my wrist, leaving bite marks for a while and some light bruising and even blood marks. I was shocked, because I just thought Oh my god…. what is wrong with you… Except he could not see what he had done wrong.. Just sat there, telling me I should of giving him the chocolates… At current we live with my mum and I showed mum the mark on my wrist and she said, you got a really spiteful nasty side. His reaction was well, she should of shared the chocolates, even though I never got the opportunity to even get to that point.
I am so worried girls, along with this, I struggle with him being not in control of money and I know when we was younger I left him for a few days, because he had a controlling nature. This improved and stopped, which is why I have been with him since. However I am scared, my wedding is in 4 months, its abroad and a part of me is doubting staying in this. Although pulling the plug would be costly, I have a number of guests who have paid to come to Cyprus and I am worried about costing people the money, some don’t have. But can I really go through with a wedding with a man, who bites me because he can’t control his emotions. Is this the start of more to come… It is sad I am resorting to going online to vent this, I have good friends, but don’t want to worry anyone, to make things harder, I have been with this man, for so long, since we were 17 years.