- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Sorry this is going to seem so long!
My dramas first started last year when my best friend and bridesmaid fell pregnant and was due around the time of my wedding we decided it was best for her to pull out. My fiances comes from a small family just one sister and one niece and his parents. His mother then suggested i have his 15 year old niece as a bridesmaid (she would cover costs) however i was still gutted about my best friend and felt i couldnt replace her and when i called teh shop to enquire about ordering another bridesmaid dress i wouldnt arrive in time for the wedding. This has become an issues that has not been disscused but seems to be brought up when things go wrong? Should i have asked his sister and niece from the start or as a bride is really my choice?
Following that his best man decided he no longer wanted to be best man 3 montsh before the wedding i had already paid for and put in my final names and numbers for catering(durning the day) place settings menus tabkes planner and personalised favours including personalised thanks you best man gifts, we have got a new best man and two weeks i had contacted all suppliers to change (this has cost me)
Now 10 weeks before the wedding my sister in law to be has split from her boyfriend and has asked to brings plus 1 to the wedding. we said no as it evened up numbers saved us money and was easier just to discard places settings, favours and have his names blanked out of the tables planner. She was very upset by this and could not understand why we couldnt just do this for her but she has no idea the throuble to go adding to the list. She had no contacted her mum in a state (who is on holiday) to get her to try and make us let her have plus 1. My mother in law to be has said she will cover costs of changing this my issues with this are
No one who is single has been invited with a Plus 1 (and there are a few )
The stress of changing everything for a 3rd time
The fact we hardly know the female friend she wants to bring
She has 15 year old daughter who would keep her company anyways and she has 2 other of her close friends comming
The cost (even though her mum is willing to cover thus)
But my mother in law to be said that my sister in law is really up set and that we should do this for her as she is still really upset over her and her daughter not being bridesmaids!!!!!
Advice please what i should do????