Post # 1
Our relationship road has been a little rocky. We were going to marry last year but postponed and have lived in separate cities for the last 12 months. I get that some people find it a bit odd.
But I wish people could just be happy for us. I’ve seen a few pained faces and had a couple of “are you sure?”s from people. Yes I’m sure. And yes he’s sure. We’ve spent the last 18months working on it and making sure that we’re sure. And it has made us a stronger couple who communicate better.
Not everyone lives then fairy story – many couples deal with much worse than our little bump in the road.
Sorry everyone – just feeling a bit judged at the moment…
Post # 3
@just_me: So that we may better undersand, what would you say that are the top concerns of those who have been less than enthusiastic about your engagement?
Post # 4
@Brielle: Honestly? How it looks to other people. My family (especially) are good at “making up” facts and telling everyone about it.
Post # 5
@just_me: That doesn’t really answer the question the PP asked. She’s asking, and I’m curious as well, to know if these are legitimate concerns. For example – abuse, infidelity, dishonesty, any other MAJOR dealbreaker – that could be cause for some concern. If you don’t want to share, that’s totally fine.
If you guys simply hit a rough patch in your relationship and worked through it then the hell with everyone else. If you really, truly believe that this is right for you guys, then go for it. And quite frankly, other people’s judgements shouldn’t irk you.
Post # 6
@JemmaWRX: Nothing like that. That’s why I get a bit frustrated – a couple of people are acting like something major has happened when it hasn’t.