- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Happily married for 1 month but this is getting into my nerve everyday and I don’t want to constantly on my DH…so girls, please let me vent here.
Here is my background story. DH, his mom, BIL’s family (brother, SIL and their 9 years old daughter) have been living together for the past 10+ years in this house. It was under the mom and the brother name and my DH just live at the ground floor alone. To skip the complicated part, the brother approach the mom and said he wants to sell the hosue and split the asset due to his financial problem (huge debt of 170K from line of credit) last year.
My DH and I talk about it, we are heading to marriage anyways and in order for both of us to finance it, the only way is we got married first before we buy it. Time fast forward to this year summer. The MIL got impatient and constantly nag my DH to sign paper work to have his name add on it. He double check with the mom and the notary if it’s ok to skip the bank, skip the brother to add his name on top of it. The lawyer said it’s ok…. which turn out NOT.
I force my DH to tell the brother about the name title thing as a respect, even though it’s not his wish… even though the lawyer explained to him that it’s not going to affect the brother, it just the mom’s portion… anyhow, he told th ebrother and the brother freak out and while 3 months before our wedding, he wanted us to made the decision rather sell the house or we buy it …
we paid a lot of money to buy his half (let’s just ignore the fact that the mother in law was the one who paid most of the down payment)…. and he told my DH that they will move out roughly end of year.
First off, when the house still under his name, he asked my DH to pay $700/month and my DH also cover the internet cost… now that table turn, he offered to pay us $1000 amonth, and that’s the three of them continues living upstairs and us squeezing in a small bedroom downstairs….. AND on top of that, he continues his business in the garage (he does custom shirt for men)….
It just drive me nut everyday to see they take advantage of my kind DH… and as for moving out of end of year, I don’t see that happening at all. After i moved in, I have not seen them pack… life goes on like nothing happening at all…. it just pain in a butt that we paid so much on mortgage and I cannot proudly to tell my friends or family this is my home. DH got annoyed that I always refer this is his house to others because it’s true, I don’t feel like this is my house because we live like a tenant and they live like landloard… when we freakign pay for everything…
DH reufsed to raise the rent given there is a water leak problem in the house that will cost us a fortune… which I can suck it up but I need a date of when they are moving out… it’s like when they need money, they force us to do it NOW even we are getitng marry real soon… but now that the burden is on us, nobody mention anythign to us. The mother in law told us it will be next year becasue the shop lease is up next year.. but dude, I need a date as I need to reno downstair suite for future tenant… I cannot just wait for one day, they tell me they are leaving and I have to pay full amount of mortage out of our pocket…
ai…… DH said I best leave out of it which I understand he try to protect me but without they giving me a date, it just driving me nut….especially how the SIL live make me feel ridiciuolus.. I grow up in a househodl that family share everything but … as much as she is friendly to me.. I can’t live with 2 set of dish soap, 2 sets of everything…. she make it clear that what’s hers and what’s the MIL…. and when the brother ate our trader’s joe pasta.. honestly, DH and I dun care but he had to run to us and apologize to us that he did not know just creep me out… I can’t live like that
Bees, thanks for listening to my vent and I really run out of ideas how to let them know they cannot live under my roof like this forever…. if they decided to continues live like that, move to the suite below..and let us live upstairs… or just leave……..