(Closed) Please opinions on vow renewal?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should we renew our vows?
    Yes : (11 votes)
    58 %
    No : (8 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    392 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    i say do it! It just happens that we will be married for 5 years when we have what i like to call our wedding because we are only married on paper and i do feel as though we need to make a big deal out of it with our friends and family! So go for it!

    Post # 4
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’m sorry, but I don’t think you should do it.  I really don’t mean to be harsh here, but it’s my opinion that you shouldn’t do a vow renewal just for the pictures.  Your vows should be something special and important in their own right, and you should only renew them if you really have a good reason to- like you’ve hit your 50th anniversary, or you went through a separation but got back together, or one of you had a life threatening disease that you overcame.  Not just because you want different pictures.  Plus you said you were a student and he works seasonally, so I don’t want to speculate too much about your finances, but throwing an entire wedding over again when you’re already married might not be the best investment right now.

    That said, I think there are two other options that I would suggest.  First- try to get a copyright release from the original photographer.  Then take the pictures to someone else who could try to edit them and get something nice enough for you to make a print of to frame.  A good editor can work magic.

    Or, you could get out your wedding dress, do your hair, have your husband rent a tux like he wore on your wedding day, and go have an awesome photo shoot with a different photographer.  The same way people do engagement pictures, only in your wedding gear.  You could get some amazing pictures in a really cool location and have something to be proud of.

    Post # 6
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’m sorry to hear about the missed memories with your dad.  In the end you have to do what’s right for you.  I stand by what I said, but if this is something you’ll regret not doing, then you should follow your heart and do it. Best of luck!

    Post # 7
    Member
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Sure! Who is it going to hurt? Do it if you have the money now.

    Post # 9
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I voted no but didn’t comment, since Greenleafmountain said it all.

    I think if it’s really important to you and you’d always regret not doing it, by all means, go ahead and do it! But to me, a renewal of vows has to be more than a reenactment to get pictures and to dance with your father because he missed the real thing.

    It’s about celebrating your love and relationship for a second time after a big milestone or because you  have overcome some great challenges together and have something to add to your original vows.

    I would go and get a photo shoot with your wedding attire; and enjoy the times you have with your dad as a family…
    I don’t think the renewal will take away the fact that there are some things about your wedding that weren’t perfect.

    I really don’t intend to be harsh, I didn’t want to comment to avoid repeating what’s been said already but you asked for the “no” voters to speak up.

    Do what will make you happy in the end.

    Post # 11
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Just being married for three years is a milestone in itself nowadays, isn’t? Tongue out

    Post # 13
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    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If you want to then do it. We’re renewing our vows in October on our 2 year anniversary. We did the courthouse thing with just our kids, for many reasons including money and family not being able to make it. Everything we did then was for this October. We’re also having our marriage blessed. which is something that is important to me.

    Post # 14
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think if you plan a party people will come.  But I just wouldn’t have an expectation that it will be like a wedding.  Just be clear with people why you’re doing it and have a fun dress to change into after the vow renewal and I think it will feel like a celebration instead of a do-over. 

    Post # 16
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    273 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I think that if you want to do a vow renewal, you absolutely should.  There is nothing wrong with celebrating your love and your marriage – and you can decide how many times you want to do it.  Heck, you can do it every year if you would like.  Marriage is a choice.  And choosing to still love someone, year after year, and choosing to say your vows again in support of that, frankly, is beautiful.  Good luck!

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