(Closed) Please, please help me…I'm upset (very long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Get your deposit back, do some research on salons/stores, look at some more bridal magazines, websites and blogs and then get another dress.

Post # 4
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MUAbride2be:  What about have someone make that dress for you? If your mom really can’t afford that amount then it isn’t worth it.

Post # 5
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m so sorry. I honestly think that you need to weigh how happy this dress, that you only wear for a very short time, will make you against how you will feel about putting your mother in debt for this dress. 

I feel like there are SO many wonderful dresses out there that you can find one at a price your mother will be able to afford easily. 

I know its hard to give up “The Dress”, and maybe it is worth it to you to keep it. Just search your heart and make sure you aren’t going to regret your decision, whatever that decision might be. 


Post # 6
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

$200 deposit for a $5000 dress?  Doesn’t sound right one bit.  If this is indeed your dress, it can be ordered elsewhere.

Post # 7
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

First, find a different place to get the dress, then talk honestly with your mom about what she can afford and work with that. Going into debt over a wedding dress is a mistake. There are HUNDREDS maybe even thousands of beautiful dresses out there and now that you know she can’t afford it you’ll always feel guilty about it.

Post # 8
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Bad reviews aside, your mom can’t afford this dress. I personally don’t think a dress is worth going into debt over, and I’d feel even more strongly about that if it was my mom’s money. You have a lot of time until your wedding. I am positive you will find a dress you love just as much at a price that is affordable.

Post # 9
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with what PP said in terms of the money for the dress….but also try to remember that (for the most part), people tend to write online reviews when they are angry, and not necessarily when things go well. Unless someone really goes above and beyond for me, I would never bother to write an online review.My bridal shop got my dress and alterations done on time, and according to the price we agreed on….I didn’t give them a good review, because frankly, that was what I expected they would do.

My florist got fantatsic reviews online, and was a complete a-hole, who I fired two weeks before our wedding.

All I’m saying is don’t base your entire decision on some online reviews.

Post # 10
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

honestly, do not go there. Even if you can not get the $200 back.

TheRe are SO many dresses for $2000 or less. I am not sure if this is an American thing that all of the dresses are priced so high, when I tell people in Canada my dress I got there was $1200 taxes included they tell me I spent a lot. $2000+ were considered couture dresses and the sections only had like 5 of them.

Your mom sounds amazing and loves you so very much, I can see how you feel guilty. I did this to my mom a few years ago about a car I wanted (same price as your dress) but we ended up going back and getting the deposit. I cried, but I knew she could not afford it. 

There will be other dresses I promise

Post # 11
2863 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would not move forward with a dress your Mom can not afford. Either pay for your own gown or shop in your Mom’s budget. 

Post # 12
1469 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Get a cheaper dress. You have time to do your research.

Post # 13
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Check out Mori Lee dresses. They are beautiful, they are well made, and they are in the $600-$1000. You have over a year to find the next perfect dress, and trust me, you will fall in love with another dress. Online reviews are a crap shoot, but if there are that many of them and they don’t seem like trolling comments or something then you might want to get that deposit back and move on.


You could try joining Angie’s List since they have reviews of these types of things but control them in a way that doesn’t just allow random people to write lies on review boards for their own amusement. (I do not work for them and am not a member myself…yet)

Post # 15
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would tell them not to order the gown, that you will not be getting it. You may lose your deposit, but you’ll save yourself more than that…then I would keep dress shopping. If your mom can’t afford the dress, then don’t let her put herself in that position to buy it!

Post # 16
670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Find a dress that looks the same and without the big pricetag. I know your mom just wants you to be happy, but she shouldn’t go in debt and have to spend a few years paying off your dress. I would not go back to that store especially with all the negative reviews!

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