Post # 1
My dad died nearly 10 years ago. My sister’s boyfriend is therefore walking me down the aisle. My oldest sister is doing the ‘father of the bride’ speech. My mum, who’s polish and therefore hates speaking in front of people, is also uber shy and wants no attention drawn to her on the day. I adore my mum. She’s an amazing person. My dad was a total c**t and she suffered for years. I’m sorry she won’t accept any part in my day that makes her a special part of it. I want to tell people about how much she means to me though. I was thinking that during the speeches, I could make a short speech, thanking my mum and telling everybody what she means to me….is this inappropriate at a wedding do you think? Is there any other way I could ‘recognise’ her contribution to the wedding and my life in any other way??
Thanks to anyone with any ideas / advice 🙂
Post # 3
I think that would be very nice 🙂 If your mom is super shy though, I would run it by her. Just throwing out a couple ideas, when your mothers are being seated you could play a special song, you can also include them in your wedding program
Post # 4
I have seen couples do this at many weddings. Thank their parents in a speech that is! I think it is very touching. You can just stand and thank everyone for comming and thank your mom for everything with out pointing her out to everyone so she doesn’t feel the spotlight too much.
Post # 5
I think thanking her during a speech is the perfect time to do it. Or, if you’re doing programs, a few sentences about her on the back page?
Post # 6
You could always write something in the program (if you’re having programs) praising your mom, if you think that toasting her will make her uncomfortable.
Post # 6
I think that would be awesome
Post # 7
thank you for the positive comments. I’m not overly etiquette savvy.
i will run it by her now…I think she’ll be better knowing it’s coming.
I think I will just stand up and make a short speech….seems the most natural time to do it 🙂
I’m in the process of sorting the programs so i think i’m going to do this too. And include FI’s parents who deserve a mention.
thank you guys….advice helps 🙂
Post # 8
will you have a rehearsal dinner? at one rehearsal i went to, they did a slideshow of pics–touching pics of the bride/groom as children growing up. during this they had tons of family pics—you could do them w/your sister and mother. then they also showed pics of the bride/groom dating. it was attached to a sappy song so by the end we were all in tears. then they also did thank you speeches to special people in their lives.
Post # 9
You could always leave a personal note on her seat at the ceremony, that she can read privately.