(Closed) Please read and tell me if I’m incredibly selfish and a bridezila!! pretty long

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t think you are being unreasonable.  From your post, it sounds like you are considering his thoughts and feelings for lots of things.  But what I don’t see are things that he has accomplished himself.  He feels like he isn’t part of the planning, but what has he done?  What research, design, and ideas has he come up with?  If he wants to be involved, he needs to actually do something!  It’s not fair that you are doing the majority of the work, only to have him become upset and make you feel bad about it.  Maybe you should give him a job to start him off.  My FI’s jobs were to book the venue, ceremony site, and create our wedding website.

Post # 4
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24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have to say, I wish my fiance had a little more input.  I have to force him to choose music.  He says he wants certain music, but when I tell him to pick some he doesn’t even look for any.  I swear he’s making me crazy!  I am making all the decisions because he doesn’t take any initiative, but then he will say I don’t let him choose what he wants.  Sounds like the grass is greener on the other side.  I wish he would have more input, but what you are dealing with is a bit overboard.  Maybe you should hand everything over to him, let him see all the decisions you have to make and all the places you need to go to find things, and maybe he will see how hard it really is and let you have more say.  And as for the fighting, my fiance and I fought majorly tonight after we had the tasting for our wedding.  It was awful (the food, and the fight).  We fought because he says he didn’t like the chicken and I asked him what he didn’t like about it, he couldn’t tell me, he said ” i just don’t like it why do I have to describe why, I just don’t)  And I tried to explain, that they can change what he doesn’t like about the chicken and thats why we go to a tasting, so we get what we want.  I woud give it a few days and don’t mention anything about the wedding.  Maybe you are giving him too much control.  Let it mello for a while, thats what I’m going to do.

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