Post # 1
So my husband and I just had an out of town wedding and most all our guests were wonderful and gave us checks or gift cards instead of having us ship things back west. Well we hit a snag that we never had thought about before! Trying to cash the checks! So we all have heard that changing our married names is a big pain (I am working on that now). We went through all the checks and people were trying to be sweet writing one of the two things on checks… to Mr. and Mrs. married name or Mr. him and me maiden name. Well both of these instances are big issues at the bank. See first… we don’t have a joint account together. Now we aren’t planning on having one right now but even if we did we would have to set it up and wait on either checks or a new bank card to come in. Problem one. We could deposit the money but not spend it. Second problem. My name isn’t changed yet and probably won’t be for a few months all in all. So the cute Mr and Mrs checks were a problem. We couldn’t deposit these at all. We figured me just endorsing them over to him would solve all our problems but nope that isn’t kosher either. Now we did luck out and we both use the same bank, I had a photocopy of the marriage license and they allowed us since we are both customers at this local bank to deposit them but I am absolutely sure we would have been screwed if we used Bank of America or something like that.
So the moral of the story? Write the check only to the groom. It will make your life SOOO much eaiser. If you want to be sweet then write something in the memo line but don’t write it to both of them. Please let other people know because even after attend about 30 weddings I never thought about this.
Post # 3
Good tip! We have gotten a few small checks for shower gifts, etc. and luckily they have all been made out to Fiance.
Post # 4
wow I never thought about this before. great tip!
Post # 5
Oh man, I know what you mean! I thought cashing checks were going to be such a hassle. We don’t have a joint bank account either so we had to use hubby’s bank…which is BofA. They were actually really nice about everything and didn’t give us any crap. The funds were available next day. I’d never thought about this issue before, but I will definitely think about it next time I send a check.
Post # 6
We’ve gotten a few for shower gifts and it wasn’t issue for us, but we do have a joint checking account together, so maybe that’s why it wasn’t an issue.
Post # 7
Great tip. I think most people will be give us gift cards (hopefully).
I wonder if this process goes smoother if we deposit at an atm or online. I know that Chase no offers a way to scan your deposits online.
Post # 8
We got SO many checks in all kinds of name combinations and never had trouble depositing them at the bank at all. I even got checks before the wedding with my First Name Married Last Name and deposited them before I was married. I still havent even changed my name. The bank didnt care at all. Are you trying to cash them or deposit them? I think they are more careful when you want the cash then when you deposit them.
Post # 9
This is great advice and I couldn’t agree with you more! I actually did do this at a wedding I went to last month, and it was my fiance who advised me to write the check to only the groom.
Post # 10
Nope we were just depositing them and it ended up not being a big issue but it was just something I never thought about. Why make a possible hassle… I will write to the groom from now on as you just never know.
Post # 11
Thank you for posting this! Its a good reminder for me that FH and I need to open a joint account soon!
Post # 12
We had almost all of checks made out to Mr. and Mrs. New Last Name we just deposited all the checks into our savings accounts (we don’t have a joint account) one account was at Bank of America and one was at CU. We didn’t have any issue and the banks said as long as the checks cleared we were all set!
Post # 13
Darling Husband and I have had a joint account for a couple of years. When we got married my name changed at work immediately while it took me awhile to change it every where else. I had no problem depositing checks with my new last name even though my maiden name was on the account. I think it just depends on where you bank. I can see the smaller banks giving you a harder time than the bigger banks. I also think it is easier to just deposit in the atm rather than deal with a teller.
Post # 14
I would change banks if they gave me problems like that.
Post # 15
We received checks written to all kinds of name combinations and we had no problems with depositing them. We don’t have any joint accounts but we bank at two different major banking organizations. I think it depends on the bank.
Post # 16
I never had an issue at all either.
I go by a different name socially and at work than my legal name. We even had people write Mrs. Name I go by + husbands last name and our bank still let me deposit it as long as we both endorsed it.
Think it just depends on the bank and even the teller you get.