(Closed) Please respond :( Bridesmaid is no more but the dress is still on its way

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

If she pays you for the remaining balance give her the dress and let her worry about it. Otherwise sell the dress and pay her back what she paid you splitting any loss equally.

No one is really going to win in this situation so you might as well try to be as fair as possible to yourself and your ex-BM.

Post # 5
Member
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I agree with Treejewel.  You are better off selling, recouping some of your money and giving back whatever she paid you.

Post # 6
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Tell her if she wants the dress, she will have to pay you the remainder of the balance.

If she doesn’t want to pay the rest, I’d tell her you’re selling the dress and she can have what’s left after you are reimbursed for what you put out. She chose to pull out, thus I think she should be the one taking the bigger hit, especially since you’d be the one who ends up having to sell it.

Post # 7
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would think that she dropped out and the intention was that she’d pay for it in the first place she should be the one to take the hit, not you. I would resell it and pay myself back and then pay her whatever the difference was. Assuming that your maids agreed to pay for their own dresses (which is sounds like they did) it’s hardly fair for you to take the loss.

Post # 8
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2488 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When Is her due date ?

Post # 12
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

She owes you for the dress, flat out.  It’s her choice not to be in the wedding and it was by her request that you get the dress and she’d pay you back.  If she pulls out of the wedding then she still owes you for the thing and then SHE can try to sell it to make back her money but she’s got no business putting you in a bad position just because she can’t get her act together.

Post # 16
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

@meetmethere2013:  

I know it’s not easy but you can start with:  I understand that you don’t want to be in the wedding anymore and I’m fine with that, however you asked for the dress to be ordered and I did it for you, again as per your request, however I’m not the one that needs to worry about this.  Either pay me the rest of the money and sell the dress yourself or I will keep it, sell it and keep any money that I get. 

There is always a chance that you still may take a loss selling it, not many people go about buying bridesmaids dresses so really….she needs to pay you back and worry about selling it herself.

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