(Closed) **Please Share your **biggest Regrets** incl photos

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 167
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Love this thread, goes to show that we brides sometimes focus on the wrong thing! Good luck to all brides to be, and please keep posting!

Post # 168
1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

uh..been dreading the idea that I would even have any regrets. This posting started just a month or so before my wedding. I guess I was in denial it was possible for me


My wedding was so traditional, so huge, so formal..so much work put into it and yet so many things went wrong that aren’t even on the list of regrets, but just unfortunate circumstances, like my dad not showing, my tooth breaking a few days before, my bell tower beng restored, my in-laws being dramatic during the reception, my bridal party getting completley drunk every night the week of the wedding, including the rehearsal night…uggh.

Moving forward with regrets, things I had more control over that is:

-I wish I had planned my hair and makeup earlier. Almost as soon as my makeup was done, it was time to put the dress on, the photographer had arleady arrived. I was rushing out the door, didn’t even have time to paint my nails. Although I was happy with how my appearance turned out, I was not happy that I never even got barley a moment to myself while standing in my dress, to take in the moments before I was going to meet my groom downstairs, to get myself into the “eeek, I”m getting married” mode.


-I wish me and my husband would have taken more time to focus on eachother…but I just felt so anxious and I suspect so did he, we barley had time to  take it in that we did it!! It was go-go-go the entire day.

– regret my photographer,  who did an amazing job on our session alone together, but who took barley any pictures of us with our family. I have almost no photos with some of my closest relatives who did most of the wedding planning and no pictures alone with my mother and stepfather. He got no location photos, photos of details like the flowers, cake, etc. I only have guest photos of those things.

– I regret letting the drama at the reception get to me. I didn’t have barley one drink, I kept being drawn to the three upset faces in the ballroom, I don’t know why I just didn’t tell myself “to hell with them if they can’t even stifle their drama for our day”….

-I regret not eating all day before the ceremony. There was fruit on the table in my hotel room but I never got a chance to take a bite of it. I almost fainted by the time I got to the reception. 

-I regret not having a few drinks at my reception.

-I regret not dancing with DH more…we didn’t dance much at all together until the very end, there was just so much going on and it was extremely hot in the room and DH kept needing to slip out for air. I still should have forced him to dance with me more, hot or not! This is probably the worst regret because even while it was happening I knew I was going to regret it…I was dancing by myself with my friends for the most part and the video even shows me dancing by myself almost the whole time…it doesn’t capture us dancing the last 5 songs that played. It makes me look like this super lonely bride! lol.

-I also regret not making a kiss at the altar happen somehow…where we got married you aren’t told “you may now kiss the bride” the ending of the ceremony is always anticlimactic in this culture….because there is a point in the middle of the ceremony while you are kneeling and the preiest pronounces you husband and wife but then makes it clear there are more formalities to come… there is still about 30 minutes left of the entire ceremony/service so it’s not appropriate to kiss at that moment…thus when it’s over the priest just says go in peace..a.nd it’s pretty akward. I think we should have had our american family cheer for us regardless so that we could feel the moment to kiss. We ended up kissing as soon as we stepped out the church doors, and I got a good picture of it….so it’s not that bad.

-I guess all in all the biggest regreat again was letting the stress of the whole wedidng get to us both, I felt like we could have enjoyed it much more if certain people could have kept their craziness to themselves. I regret this the most because I think it’s why I idnd’t cry at the ceremony….which is very unlike me. I think I was just try9ing to get through it with my sanity in tact. I still have lots of issues with certain people who made my life very difficult during that time.

Post # 169
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@pinklemonade12:  + this! So well articulated πŸ™‚

I do have some regrets, but am only posting them to help other brides. Overall our wedding was magical & so many more things went right.

I wish I’d spent more time with out of town guests and given them a proper farewell, before being hungover and not just the ‘group’ farewell the bride & groom do at the end of the night.

My hair DROPPED big time. I should have worn it up at our reception because I have THIN hair and my stylist was an idiot.

My bouquet wasn’t what I was expecting but I have since learned to love it. Make sure if you are getting married on an island, the flowers you request are accessible πŸ™‚

Post # 170
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just want to echo what  @pinklemonade12: and 

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@Brielle: said – we all have the possibility to have regrets, because chances that everything will work exactly as planned are slim to none!  I think one of the blogging bees noted that she couldn’t control what happened, but she could control her reaction to it.  I tried to have that as my mantra for my wedding day.  Oh, so our DIY lighted globes didn’t actually glow?  Oh well!  Let’s concentrate on the guests, food, fun and dancing!

Having said all that, I do have regrets!  I’m a human after all!  Namely, it’s that I didn’t spend more time with out of town friends.  I had tried to prepare myself and even done the math in my head and knew that with 100 guests, spending just 5 minutes talking to each = 500 minutes.  Not do-able!  But I wish I had spent more time with them somehow – maybe the night before?  I was all nerves and didn’t sleep well anyway, so could have been up late night chatting with them!

Post # 171
1759 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My biggest regret was definitely our cake. Now, I can’t really complain because it was free (a family friend/ex-co-worker of DH’s made it for us), but it looked absolutely nothing like I had envisioned.

I gave her these parameters:

with these inspiration pictures:

Bascially I wanted each tier to look differently, like the 3rd inspiration picture, but this is what we ended up with:

Now, I understand the difference/difficulty between working with straight buttercream and fondant, so I give her props for what she did do, BUT I didn’t expect the piped stuff, or the blue dots, or the little shell-looking things she added. The flower ‘appliques’ she made were extremely tiny, and not at all what I asked for, and the sugar ‘glitter’ she used was on every tier, and didn’t really show…

It tasted so dang good, though!

Post # 172
5636 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am currently beating myself up over holding my bouquet in the wrong place…..had it up too high. I knew to hold it low but I forgot everything right as I was walking out and it all went out the window…LOL


Post # 173
7 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

Posting so I can read again in the future! Love this thread!

Post # 174
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Thank you ladies so much for sharing these mishaps! I’m totally going to start a “must have” photo list!

Post # 175
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I watched my wedding video for the first time recently and the screaming child that ruined our ceremony was just as bad as I remembered.  Also, the empty seats were as noticable as I remembered. 

If you have friendors or friend helpers who will not be sitting during the ceremony, remember to not include chairs for them or your seating area will look very empty!  I had 70 seats and only about 50 of them were actually taken as I had so many friends helping out!

And if you don’t want to invite children, don’t!  Screaming children really do ruin ceremonies.  Trust me!

Post # 176
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

A few of my regrets.

I didn’t get a good picture of just me and my mom. We got one of me, her, hubby, and my stepdad. And one of me, her, and brother dancing. But no posey-cutesy pictures. πŸ™

DJ didn’t play the right song for the guys to walk into or for everyone to walk out to. I am actually kinda mad about that one. We put a lot of effort into picking “perfect” songs. Kinda bummed no one heard what we wanted.

I was supossed to have a special dance with my brother, the DJ didn’t have that song either.

Because it was raining and “supossed” to stop, the cordinator kept asking me if I wanted to wait so we could still get married outside, and I did. So the ceremony was pushed back almost a complete hour. We still ended up getting married inside. (Which turned out beautifuly but wasn’t my vision the day of)

Because of the hour delay, we had an hour less with our guests. πŸ™ I feel like it flys by no matter what so I am bummed that I decided to wait, and wait for the rain to stop because it took away from our reception time. Obviously at the moment when they were asking me what to do I wasn’t thinking big picture! πŸ™ 

Other than those few things, everything else went great!

Post # 177
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My only regret I have is not booking our photographer longer.  We had them for 7 hours and I should have done at least 8 to get some more shots with the bridal party beforehand.

Post # 178
3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ganing a bit of weight right before the wedding due to stress eating, but that one is a minor regret. It was still the happiest day.


My main regret is photos. I had great photographers but.. I wish there were more photos of me and my girls, there is barely a good one of my Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) and I. There are no nice photos of my parents or DH’s parents. I would have loved to look back on a great photo of my parents together all dressed up. And some of the night time dancing photos have such a strong flash that it looks like they were taken at 12 noon which is odd because people are drunk and dancing with drinks. It just looks a little out of place.

Besides that, not many regrets at all and even with those complaints, it was a great day, we have some great photos and I’m so happy with the turn out. My dress was painful though and the boning gave me blisters so I’m glad I don’t have to do that day over haha.

Post # 179
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just saving this to read later πŸ™‚ Wow, so many people unhappy with photogs. Will try to learn from mistakes, photos are the most important part for me πŸ™‚

Post # 180
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club

wow i’m taking notes so hopefully i don’t have too many regrets on my day. I already made a list of must have pictures for my photographer i also added a 2nd photographer to the contract, added extra hrs for video and hired a planner for the day. Now i am honestly stressed out that everything will go wrong on my wedding (with my luck i wouldn’t be surprise)

Post # 181
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

commenting so i can find this closer to my wedding date

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