(Closed) **Please Share your **biggest Regrets** incl photos

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 406
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I used an Ipod for  my wedding reception. I too was worried it wouldn’t work well but to the contrary, it was perfect. Yes, preparing the playlist was time consuming but it was worth  all the work cuz i had all the songs i wanted. There was a Boss sound system at the venue. So the sound was excellent. A friend of mine stayed closed to the Ipod for when I was entering the venue to make sure all was good but other than that, the Ipod was there all evening on a chair and everything went well. Not one single problem except I hardly danced at all cuz I was too busy talking with everybody lol

 

Post # 407
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Forgot to add. If you do end up using an Ipod make sure you try it out at the venue way before the day of the wedding. The owner of the venue had told me there would be no problem using an Ipod but a few days before the wedding, i went to the venue to check things out. Holy macaroni.There wasn’t the required jacks to operate the sound system with the Ipod. I had to rush to a sound system shop to buy one. Only 20$, then went back to the venue to try things out. Perfect! Can you imagine if I hadn’t checked things out. I had read on this board that it was a wise thing to do before the actual wedding day to go try things out. best advice i ever read here Also, having an Ipod was alot cheaper than having a DJ. I had already booked one and had put a deposit for his services but since the venue we had chosen declared bankrupcy a few months before the wedding, i had to find another venue and couldn’t afford the dj anymore. I lost the deposit but lesson learned. Try not to give deposits so far ahead of he actual wedding day unless you are 100 % sure the wedding will take place at the chosen venue. Ah,,,, just talking about my wedding day reminds me what a beautiful, beautiful day it was, In fact, it was the best day of my life! Hope your’s is too.

 

Post # 408
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Helper bee

MrsFairyBee:  I totally agree, I was so busy looking around and trying not to break down crying (though i did anyway #fail) that I forgot to lock eyes with my love! 

Post # 409
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Blushing bee

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Post # 410
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

A few regrets but I still had a great time at my wedding.  I didn’t care then when it went wrong/when I didn’t like something and I don’t care now.  The married part is for life, the ceremony is for one day!

For what it’s worth, here are my regrets:

1.  A bridesmaid fainted during my ceremony.  She had a lot to drink beforehand (I wasn’t there to see it all happen because we were taking pictures) and couldn’t get up.  In fact, we performed the rest of the ceremony while she was laying down.  A lot of people thought that I was going to have a meltdown, but I laughed.  What can you do?  Of course I wish that hadn’t happened but it did.  It makes for a great story.<br />

2.  My draping wasn’t necessary and the money could have been spent elsewhere.

3.  I wish I had worked in my shoes (I ended up taking them off).

4.  I wish I had more pictures with my veil!  I have very few and would have liked one (just one) with it flowing in the wind or something.

A wedding is never going to be 100% perfect – but it’s the person that you marry not the actual day that matters! πŸ™‚

Post # 411
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Blushing bee

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Post # 412
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

The closest I have to a regret is not scheduling everyone’s hair an hour earlier – our moms ended up taking longer than expected, and we were 30 minutes late, and I also had to slap on makeup in a bit of a rush. On the bright side, some of our guests ended up being late, and would have missed my walk down the aisle if we had started on time!

Other than that everything else was so minor! When I saw this guest photo I felt pretty strong regret that I didn’t ask anyone to straighten out my train and veil for the ceremony:

But when I got the pro photos back I couldn’t even tell that was an issue:

I also wish I had tried the all of the appetizers, but then again knowing myself I probably would have dropped them all over my dress, so maybe less is a good thing. πŸ™‚

Post # 413
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Blushing bee

I was somewhere between 40 minutes and an hour late for my own wedding!!

I don’t know exactly how late, as my Maid/Matron of Honor and my Dad could obviously tell how upset I’d be about this (I am always on time for things and would not ever have imagined I’d be late on my wedding day) and they avoided telling me the time after we left in the car for the venue.

I got married 10 days ago and there were two nights last week when I didn’t get to sleep until around 3am because when I closed my eyes I just started re-playing all the things that happened that final hour before the ceremony was due to start that caused me to be so late. I’m not even sure that if I went back in time I could prevent these things from happening, but I still feel so stupid for being late.

For example, the main things were that we got stuck in a traffic jam and then, when we were almost at the venue, I found out my Dad had forgotten the flowers (everyone’s flowers, not just mine) and so we went all the way back through the traffic jam and started again. Honestly though, I was running late already, because the hotel room doors where most of us were staying all started to lock at 12 noon and no one could get into their rooms. Everyone seemed to come to me about this (as well as small issues they were having with their clothes etc) and no one aside from my Maid/Matron of Honor even seemed to notice that I was unable to get ready properly because of it and was running behind schedule. 

We only had 23 guests at the wedding and I have since apologised to almost every one of them personally. They all seem to think I’m mad to worry about this as the day was really perfect except for my lateness and apparently it gave them all a chance to re-connect before the ceremony. But I still can’t help feel that this is such a stupid mistake for me to have made on such an important day. Those last couple of hours before the wedding were sort of like a nightmare in which every obstacle is put in the way of you getting to where you want to be. My future husband was, just as I imagined, stood there at 2pm worrying that it might rain before I arrived.

It didn’t rain. Very bad weather had been forecast for our outdoor ceremony, but it was beautiful sunshine for the ceremony and for exactly the right amount of time afterwards for us to take all of our outdoor photos. The first drop of rain fell as we took the last group shot.

Maybe my biggest regret should be that I’m struggling to let go of this mistake and allowing it to mar my memory of such an amazing day. Any advice about how to let go of the panicky feeling, and just remember how great everything was once I started walking down the aisle, would be greatly appreciated!

Post # 414
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Blushing bee

cranraspberry:  Your professional wedding photograph is GORGEOUS! 

It is reassuring to me to read that someone else was quite late to their wedding, but is really ok about it. I found this thread when looking for similar reassuring posts and only found lots of posts about people thinking it was unexceptably rude for a bride to be late πŸ™ 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by  LearCat23.
Post # 415
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

LearCat23:  I am so sorry you are so upset about it! I really don’t like to be late too, but here’s my way of thinking about it:

1. my now husband said that at least one of our guests literally came running in 15 minutes late and asked: “Did I miss the wedding??”, lol. I’m sure some of your guests were running late too, and were relieved they didn’t actually miss anything!

2. every time I apologized to the guests, they said that it was totally expected for the bride to be late, and that they couldn’t think of a single wedding where everything started on time

3. imagine yourself as the guest – would you really be that annoyed/upset that you had to wait 40 minutes, or would you be enjoying drinks and company, and excitedly waiting for the ceremony to begin? I’m sure none of them were looking at their watches every five minutes, it’s not like they are in line at the RMV!

4. if there’s one day in your life when it’s totally okay to be late for something, it has to be your wedding day. πŸ™‚

I really hope you are able to get past the negative emotions, and realize that the most important thing is that they were there for you, and you are now MARRIED!

Post # 416
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Honestly I don’t have any straight out regrets but there were some things that happend that diffently weren’t planned on.

1. I went out wtih my girls to catch our 8 passenger limo, only to find two 6 passengers, the driver than explained they had the 8 passenger on its way but offered the two 6’s if we didnt want to wait, we waited about 2 minutes before the 8 passenger showed up. ( I so scared I would delay the whole wedding cuz of this, but didn’t want to spilt up our wedding party to the two 6 passengers either).

2. I think I pulled up my petticoat too far, so that i wouldn’t trip on it, to the point where guests were coming up to me to fix it. (still waiting on photos so am hoping its not notiable) Yet I still literally had to kick my dress ahead of me down the asile so i wouldn’t trip (really hope you can notice that either.

3. We picked a long first dance song, and it just seemed too long or maybe thats because the attnetion was just on us, I hate being the center of attention, luckly I had an awesome DJ who understood my head nod as time to cut it short.

4. My niece spilled my drink on my dress, I think I acdenitally scolded her by saying her name, she cried and was so upset about it. We dumped club soda on it, and you could never tell the difference. After photos i took her aside and said look i only plan on wearing this once, its no big dal you cant see it, please dont let this ruin your night, hugged her and shared a personal  joke with her. I felt terriable for her afterwards.

5. We tried our best to get to everyone, and walk around the tables (we skipped our salad and most of our meal to do this) yet we still missed some ppl since they werent at their tables when we got to them. Not sure how ppl usually do this, maybe some of our family memebers were just extra chatty, I actually lost my voice at one point and couldn’t figure out why, it was from talking to everyone over the music.

6. Not having cake other than when we cut it that is. we actually went back to his parents room afterwards to grab some.

7. we started a little late due to one of our shuttles getting there late (I had no idea that we were running late but Darling Husband told the coordinater to diff wait for the shuttle as alot of close family memebers were on it)

Regardless I still think we had a great and fun wedding.

 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by  MissParrot.
Post # 417
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

1. We did a wedding in Mexico…in August. There’s really not much I could’ve done to change that because it was the only time I had off but boyyyy was it hot hot hot! Lol no sweat made it into the pictures though.

 

1. Our small regret is having the parents’ table too close to the speakers. A few times we had to turn it down for them but I’d say that was pretty minor.

Post # 419
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Bumble bee

Not getting any ‘dip’ photos with my husband. So bummed!

Regarding lateness- not true that no bride is on time. I was early and we sat in the car around the corner to kill some time. I actually don’t like it when they are late. I wouldn’t whinge about it, it’s their day, but it’s just as rude, IMO, as being late to anything else. I’ve never been to a ceremony where drinks and food were served before hand, so maybe it’s different for those sorts of ceremonies or those not in a Church. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by  mazzoffee.
Post # 420
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Commenting to follow πŸ™‚ great thread

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