(Closed) **Please Share your **biggest Regrets** incl photos

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 511
Member
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One thing I didn’t think of until it was too late — I wish I’d had my wedding planner ask at the rehearsal who of our bridal party wanted to give a speech at the dinner. We just assumed the best man and maid of honor, and didn’t leave time or space for anyone else. A couple of my bridesmaids came up to me later and gave me their prepared speeches, which were so sweet. I wish they could have said them in front of the whole room!

Post # 512
Member
2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2016

1. Allowing other people to upset me on my wedding day.. my bridal party was more concerned with getting something to drink/ eat after the ceremony than taking photos with me which led to really rushed/not so good photos with my bridal party.. their attitudes did bring me down and upset me on the day 

2. Not getting more candid photos with my mom

3. Limited space in the hotel room for get ready pics causing very plain/ not so good photos with junk in the background 

4. Not getting a piece of our wedding cake 

5. Serving chicken over beef 

6. Cheating out on phorobooth and the props were damaged/ limited and the back drop was not what I ordered 

7. Left a few lines out of my wedding vows by accident 

8. We got rose petals to be thrown at us after the ceremony but not enough people at the ends of the aisles grabbed them so Barely no petals were thrown and you can’t see any in photos 

 

Post # 513
Member
2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2016

1. Allowing other people to upset me on my wedding day.. my bridal party was more concerned with getting something to drink/ eat after the ceremony than taking photos with me which led to really rushed/not so good photos with my bridal party.. their attitudes did bring me down and upset me on the day 

2. Not getting more candid photos with my mom

3. Limited space in the hotel room for get ready pics causing very plain/ not so good photos with junk in the background 

4. Not getting a piece of our wedding cake 

5. Serving chicken over beef 

6. Cheating out on phorobooth and the props were damaged/ limited and the back drop was not what I ordered 

7. Left a few lines out of my wedding vows by accident 

8. We got rose petals to be thrown at us after the ceremony but not enough people at the ends of the aisles grabbed them so Barely no petals were thrown and you can’t see any in photos 

 

Post # 514
Member
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Hi bees!

I just started wedding planning and I looked over this thread, all 35 pages of it. I’m incredibly grateful to those who have posted over the years!

I hope to pass along my own “Wedding Lessons” (hopefully not regrets) next Fall.  Happy Thanksgiving and I am truely thankful for this site and you all to help me in this journey. 

Here is what I typed up as notes. It’s not all encompassing, but a good place to start.  

WeddingBees’ Lessons

Beauty

Be sure you can move around in your dress

Get a Bra that fits

Practice hair and makeup

Bustle properly

Break in shoes

Getting ready will always take more time than planned

Spot check your face throughout the day

Ceremony

Have someone keep on timeline

Have a videographer

Invest in a very Good photographer

Make sure train isn’t bustled

Day Of Coordinator – make sure they know what they’re doing

Coordinate with officiant on when to Kiss

Photography

Provide a List of Must Haves (and have someone with a copy day-of) 

The bride and groom of course (formal and candid)

With Bridesmaids and groomsmen (separate and together)

Brides family

Grooms family

Everyone

Just with someone in particular

Rings

Full length of just bride in dress (unbustled!)

Candid Family photos

Dont forget Veil

Clever idea: a “photo download center” at reception and have the DJ announce every half hour or so for guests to bring their cameras, phones, etc over and download them to a zip drive right there.  That way they wouldn’t have to worry about sending the pictures to the newlyweds after the wedding.  

Reception

Time alone and dance together 

Go to the tables and say hello

Figure out who gets centerpieces at the end

Get picture of the space before guest enter

Figure out who wants to give a speech

Food

Be sure to eat!

Try apps during cocktail hour

DJ

Give DJ more than enough songs

Variety of music, dance! 

Flowers

Don’t DIY the day before, or at least give them lots of water

Hold bouquet low

 

You can’t plan for everything

Breathe, remember what this day is about, and enjoy it!

Post # 515
Member
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

mandi18 :  woohoo! Thanks for the recap. It’s actually quite helpful

Post # 516
Member
261 posts
Helper bee

Commenting to read later!

Post # 517
Member
7749 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t have any real regrets. My wedding was last weekend and I am still on cloud 9…best effing day of my life, everything came together incredibly.

Only one real mishap: the effing limo took us to the wrong address! Some idiot at the limo company put the wrong address on his form so he took us to the literal middle of nowhere and was like “um I think we’re here?” – dude, no. My bridesmaid had to look up the address on her phone, put it in google maps and give her phone to the driver so he could navigate properly…what!!!?? But in the end it only made us 20 min late and we still had plenty of time to take photos and get our shit together before the ceremony so it was fine. I’m glad that was our only fluke!

But the lesson learned is: clarify with your limo driver where he is taking you before you set off! This is not a day you can afford to be dicked around by an incompetent driver/company!

Post # 519
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

1. My designer (my gown was custom-made) sort of rushed the finishing of my dress. I did not see the final output until the wedding day. There were some parts of the dress which I’m not really thrilled about. But thankfully, I was told (also by some bees) that my gown was beatiful. That was a great pick me up because I was really sad for weeks afterthe wedding high was gone.

2. We got married in the peak of summer and our cocktails were setup outdoors. The crew was not able to light all of the votives in our centerpieces because our coordinators were forced to let people in the venue earlier than expected because it was already super hot outside. Thankfully, some of the guests noted that they did not notice this blunder – only noticed it when I mentioned it to them.

Also, because of this, the placement of the table numbers were mixed up. My close family members were placed at the back when they shouldhave been at the front. Good thing they were very understanding.

3. We should not have gotten wedding favors anymore. No one cared about them. The photobooth pictures were enough. 🙂

4. Our church/ceremony venue may be too plain. Initially, the church provided flowers would be placed in between the pillars on the floor. But the flowers were too big so they were just removed altogether.

5. The lifesaver in this photo. But this is just really nitpicking. 🙂 We had a beach theme.

Post # 520
Member
257 posts
Helper bee

All of my regrets are minor and I had a wonderful wedding day, but, if we’re bringing it up…

– I regret my choice of nail color. I’m REALLY into doing my nails with fancy designs and jewels and whatnot and I got a very boring manicure done, not like me AT ALL and I hate the way they look in photos (like i’m sick or something). The nail tech I had didn’t want to put tips on my nails and I wanted longer nails for a nicer look. I wish I’d been more firm and insisted.

– I regret going to get my nails done with the girls the night before the wedding instead of a day or two before. It took us FOUR HOURS to get all of our nails done and I still had shit to do for the wedding the next day. I hadn’t eaten and we didnt get home til 8:30 and by then, I’d lost my appetite

– I regret not getting all my shit done earlier – the night before I was in tears (from stress) in my bedroom putting together the slideshow for the next night. We’d talked it up so much that I didn’t feel like I could just forget about it. Awful way to spend the night before the wedding.

– I regret some of my bridal party choices. My one friend had a new baby and she was really distracted and basically MIA the whole night. I wish she’d taken me up on my offer to bring the babe to the wedding so she could enjoy herself with babe and not stress out [we had a no children wedding but I was happy to make an exception for babes in arms/babes who were breastfeeding, she was the only one]. My Maid/Matron of Honor kind of screwed off at the ceremony to be with her bf; my other Bridesmaid or Best Man stepped up to the plate… she really should have been my Maid/Matron of Honor, all she wanted was for me to have a perfect day and she handled all the issues without me even knowing it. She recently told me she was hurt when she saw I’d picked my other friend as Maid/Matron of Honor and I feel horrible, probably my very biggest regret from the day.

– I regret the photographer choice. We thought we had a good one but the family portraits are all AWFUL, they were rushed and none of them are printable. The photographers stressed me out the most, they were rushing us and me and in retrospect, I didnt appreciate it. There was no need, I’m the bride, if I’m half an hour late then everyone has to wait. (not that I wanted people to wait, but don’t rush me when we’ve got time)

– I regret not eating more!! I ate half my breakfast, nothing for lunch (and I felt bad that the girls didnt eat because I couldn’t get my shit together and pull the food out of the fridge) and I barely ate dinner. I had no alcoholic drinks, just water all night long. I do regret not drinking; my parents basically insisted that it was inappropriate for me to drink too much at the wedding so I felt like I couldn’t enjoy myself and I drank nothing alcoholic.

– I regret letting the photographers put the “I do” stickers on my shoes for a photo op… I almost fell on my ass during my dance with my dad because the jewels slipped on the floor – they put them ON TOP of the no slip grips I had on my shoes and it totally fucked with my balance

– I regret not being more specific about photos. I didn’t get a single photo with each of my bridesmaids individually, which I would have really liked to have. I also didnt get a single photo of me and my mom or just me and my dad, which would have also been great. Fuck that photographer… I thought they’d have more vision – they had none.

– I regret paying for a dessert table on top of the dessert they had. I got it into my head that there was no dessert… yeah there was. And we had SO much food, so much went to waste, the late night fare and the dessert table. Much of it was donated to a local shelter but still… money down the drain.

– I regret not being more specific about where decor went. Our guestbook was supposed to be a framed page with our names and the wedding date. The venue displayed it standing up so no one knew to sign it. Thankfully I also had a backup guestbook and people signed that instead. But it was a $60 piece of paper that ended up in the garbage.

All in all, things that I’ll forget in the coming months and years and down the road, I probably won’t remember ANY of these things (except the photographer, cause those family photos piss me off). But it feels cathartic to write it all down in one place!

Post # 521
Member
12 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2019

mandi18 :  Thanks for the recap! I went through all 35 pages too! 🙂

Post # 524
Hostess
3158 posts
Sugar bee

Closing this thread now. Please do not bump threads that are this old. You’re always welcome to start a new one.

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