(Closed) **Please Share your **biggest Regrets** incl photos

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Thank you for this thread! Greatly appreciated…some very important hindsight…

Post # 48
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@pinklemonade12:  Gorgeous pic! Is this NOTL? You look stunning!

Post # 49
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Great thread, I agree! I am so worried but more prepared now! Thank you!

Post # 50
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i regret not getting any of the delicious hor d’ouvres at cocktail hour.  we even had our pictures taken prior to the ceremony so i could enjoy the cocktail hour but it took forever for my cousin to bustle my train for me.

i regret not getting pictures of the venue set up for dinner.  they flipped the site after the ceremony.

i regret not getting a picture of all of my siblings.  there are 6 of us and we haven’t all been together in many, many years.

 

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, I’m officialy going to have nightmares tonight! 🙂 This is freaking me out! Great advice though!

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@randombee:  no veil photos at all =( I had made it myself so I didn’t lose out on a bunch of $$ but I had always dreamed of having a long veil on my wedding day

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee

The only thing I really regret is that I didn’t get to eat any of the delicious appetizers.  My hubs did, but I missed out somehow.

Post # 54
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Helper bee

I just wanted to add that while I do have a list of regrets or things that I wish had happened differently, I was never sad on my wedding day. They are more so the things you think of after the wedding, and while I do wish I could change some of them, I still had an amazing wedding and overall I’m thrilled with how everything worked out.

I just wanted to add that incase some brides were getting nervous about all the small details. No matter how hard you try to avoid it, little things will go differently than how you planned, but it’s okay, just make sure to focus on the big picture. You’re getting married YAY 🙂 As long as you focus on that then you will have a perfect wedding!

Post # 55
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@pinklemonade12:  Excellent point! I was thinking about this also, as I read the comments of those whose weddings have not yet taken place.

Although there is some helpful information to be gleaned in this thread to try to prevent some of these disappointments, the overarching take-away from this thread for those who have not yet had their weddings should be that no matter how much you plan and prepare, it’s very possible, even likely that some things are going to not go just as you had envisioned on your wedding day. It’s really how you handle that that matters.

I would encourage you to be like @pinklemonade12:  and to not be sad. Unfortunately for me, I was sad — terribly so — and it truly overshadowed my ability to enjoy my honeymoon and newlywed experience.  I kept trying to go back in my mind and re-live everything that didn’t go right. I am exceedingly logical and highly analytical, but I was so caught up in my analyzing that I totally missed the logic that, if I kept looking backward, I could not possibly go forward. I really struggled with being able to live in the moment.  I spent countless hours of time and all of that energy rehashing the past and trying to think of ways to “fix” some of it in the future instead of enjoying the present. It took me about nine months to realize that all that I had done by focusing on my disappointments was miss out on making new, happy memories with my DH. It definitely affected our relationship. I hope this comment — and this entire thread — helps someone else avoid doing that. 🙂

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@pinklemonade12:  totally agree with that.  These are things you realize AFTER the wedding.  And in my case, they slipped through the cracks BECAUSE we were having such a great time.  

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Thanks for sharing – definitely things to keep in mind before I get married this fall!

One thing I am thankful for, is that we splurged to get the photographers that I wanted, because they have been nothing short of AMAZING during our planning process, and have been very quick to answer any of my neurotic panicked emails. They have given us a very detailed timeline, and built in extra time so that we don’t run behind and we get all the photos that we want. They definitely have been good at their jobs, and as a result, keeping me sane!

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Not much of a regret, since I am over it now. But I guess I could have been more firm with the DJ, he did not play many dance worthy songs.

Post # 59
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This was a great read. It’s these little things that we may not realize the day of the wedding..will definitely help me on my day in 15 days……!

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I was miffed that I forgot to put my veil on before formal pictures. We took pictures after the wedding with it on, but they were outside and it was windy, so it blends in, or is in the way. It was a beautiful drop veil, and I loved it.

And I regret (mildly) that we forgot to have the photog take pictures of the decorated fellowship hall. 

And this cake, the cake topper was not the one I picked out. It was our initials (we had the same initials even before the wedding) and I was really excited about that touch. I don’t know where this one came from.

Overall, that stuff is annoying, but as you can see in the above picture, we were still thrilled, and nothing was ruined because of it. I just try not to think about those things too much. Lol.

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

 

  • Not putting a MUST photo list together… Our photographer was awesome but forgot alot of small details…There was a really cute frame on the candy table, the table numbers were all different designer shoes, better pics of the candy table and cake pops, my somethings, the flowers upclose, the boutinerres, the food.. a lot of little things I didnt get pics of.

 

  • Our DJ was also a HUGE regret.. from Dec until May we asked for a contract and never got one.. he is supposedly one of the best in Atlanta but on the day of, another one of his associates showed up and said he had a family emergency.. the poor guy was so frazzeled and wasnt good because he didnt know half of what the real Dj (whom we paid extra deposit to make sure he was the one we got) and I had discussed. Luckily when the guy left he told us not to pay him since he didnt know how much and it was a last minute change…

 

  • My dress.. a little. I lost another 5 lbs the week of my wedding.. so the top was too big and it slide down by the middle of the night and some of the pics show wayy too much cleavege and alot of back fat since it wasnt sitting where it should have.

Begining of the night

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It was small things but all in all it doesnt change the fact my wedding was still amazing because I still got to marry my amazing husband..

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