(Closed) **Please Share your **biggest Regrets** incl photos

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Can I just say I’m so releived to hear my wedding wasn’t the only one where people left around 9. I had no idea it happened to anyone else.

Despite the early end, everyone said they had a great time. The feedback we got was that it was an awesome cocktail/dinner party. I’ll take it, it’s just not exactly what we were going for.Undecided

The upside of the early end is we got to actually sleep that night. We had an early morning for breakfast with the family, so going to bed by 12 was awesome.

Another regret is that SO much food went to waste!! We paid for 45 people (our venue’s minimum) but only had about 30 guests. I’m pretty sure the venue had food for 60 people ! (it was buffet style). There was just so much food and beer left over.

I wish we had coreographed some sort of first dance. Ours ended up being a bit awkward in the middle school circle shuffle way. We ended up spending most of our first dance waiting for the song to end.

The only other regret is not having my closest family and friends there since we had to do it across the continent and no one aside from my mom and sister could make it.

All in all, I walked away knowing I probably wouldn’t have changed anything. We had a great time and the day was perfect. We were married, families got along and we had fun!

Post # 63
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I only have one regret and that is that my Photographer did not get a photo of my “pie table” ๐Ÿ™ which was one of my favorite things at our weddding!! No guests got pics either! These are the two best pictures I have of it lol:

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This is a great thread, I’m glad I’m not the only one who loved my wedding but has nagging irritations ๐Ÿ™‚

– My ceremony musician played the wrong song as I walked down the aisle. I had spent a *LOT* of time searching for the perfect song, communicated to the vendor and the planner correctly, it was specified in the ‘day-of’ schedule correctly – and yet as I took my first steps he broke into ‘Here Comes the Bride’ – a piece of music I loathe. There was nothing to be done without causing a commotion so I kept walking, but I can’t help but be sad and angry that my ‘one chance’ to walk was to music I hated.

– We had two flavors of cake  – the venue served the bridal table last and had run out of the more popular flavor, so my family and officiant didn’t get their choice. What’s worse, the next day I found out the venue had saved the top layer of cake for me (in the popular flavor) even though I had directed them earlier not to – as it is not *my* favorite flavor. So the guests ate the flavor they didn’t want, and I’m stuck with 12 servings of cake I don’t want in my freezer. I’m so irritated that the venue or planner didn’t ask me when they ran out if I wanted the top layer cut for guests. All I was told was ‘there was a problem with the chocolate cake’ ๐Ÿ™

– I spent several months scouring ebay for antique postcards from places my DH and I had lived in – they matched the table names and were to be conversation starters at the tables. They didn’t get put out. I should have done a more careful walk-through but they were still setting up when I was doing pics and then I had to hide from DH’s arrival. None of the guests noticed since they didn’t know I had planned that, but now I have a couple hundred dollars worth of postcards sitting in a box!

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I know that this is regrets and supposed to be venting/commiserating, but it’s helpful to those of us who haven’t had our weddings yet!

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsWoW:  I am so sorry about your ceremony musician!  Did you ask him what happened?  What did he say?

Post # 67
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Love this thread! Definitely would have helped before the wedding. ๐Ÿ˜‰

I still love how our wedding day went but here are a few things I wish we would have done differently:

1. Hired a good photographer. We had a Destination Wedding and a photographer came with our package to photograph the ceremony. He was… decent? DH and I aren’t really picture people and we were on a budget so we figured it would be okay. Just looked at the pictures again last night and I was kind of disappointed.. some were crooked! At first I thought the photog was accidentally taking them crooked but then I realized he was trying to take “trendy” shots or some bs where the picture is taken at a 45 degree angle. Not so cool. On the bright side, we got most of the pics we wanted (and they weren’t crooked!).

2. I wish we were able to take a picture with all my family (including parents, brother, aunt, uncle, all my cousins and kids). In all 3 of my cousins’ weddings, there has always been a HUGE family photo with all of us and I wish I had gotten one at our wedding (this is probably my biggest regret).

3. We forgot to give a public thank you speech to all our guests at the end of the night! Still kicking myself over that. FORTUNATELY, we had the time to go to each table to speak to our guests during dinner, so everyone got personal time with us. I think that makes it okay that we didn’t give a big thank you to everyone at the end of the night.

4. This isn’t a regret because it worked out alright but DON’T FORGET YOUR CHARGER if you’re doing your own music. I had made my own playlists on iTunes and had my brother (also the MC) in charge of playing music. I brought my computer and charger over to his hotel room before the wedding but somehow only the computer made it to the venue. AHHH I was freaking out because my computer has terrible battery life.. especially when playing any type of media. I can’t believe the computer made it through the whole night without dying! (Still wiping my brow with relief that it all worked out there!)

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is an awesome thread full of great advice, even though that wasn’t the intent!  Thanks!

Post # 69
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Here are the things that I did not do that I wish I would have done:

1) Not getting more photos with my mom at our destination wedding. Not getting photos with just my sisters & I. Not getting photos of little details at our wedding, including the large table of 20 setup with the hanging lanterns over it. So basically #1 are missing photo related. I love the professional photos we did get I just wish there were more ๐Ÿ™ I have to just keep trying to focus on what we have and not what is ‘missing.’ After all of that hard work of planning decoration for the reception these are the only photos we have to remind us of the setting. I would have loved some where no one was at the table and some where everyone was at the table. I should have been more clear with the photographer, because I know he would have gotten the photos if they were on my “must have” list.

 

2) The bustle on my dress was also very loose and everyone was stepping on my dress. I wish we would have known to ask the tailor to add way to many strings instead of not enough. Also make the strings up higher so my dress would not drag.

3) Not hiring a “Day of Coordinator” to take care of the details that the resort wedding coordinator should have taken care of. Looking back I wish we woudl have known from the slow response from the WC emails that the WC would not be very attentive. We only saw her twice for about 1 minute each on our wedding day. I would have loved to hire someone to be there for the whole thing.

4) Not having my mom sit next to me at the reception dinner. We only had 16 guests at our destination wedding so I didn’t think it was necessary to have a seating chart. But I really wish my mom would have sat next to me. I could have used her calming and relaxing energy to help remind me to eat & relax. 

5) Not drinking a cold press coffee at 2:00pm to keep me pumped up though the whole day and night. We were SO tired at 5:00pm that instead of taking photos during the 1 hour “break” between the cocktail hour and the reception we took 1/2 of that time to sleep in our room just to try to get some energy for the rest of the evening. Our drink of choice that night was a frap with extra caffine.

That’s all I can think of right now. It’s nice to get this off my mind becuase I’ve been thinking of these things for 44 days now! Time to let it go. Overall it was a wonderful day and the longer we get away from it the more these little things will hopefully disappear and only the awesomeness will remain.

 

 

Post # 70
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Worker bee

@MrsWoW:  That would really irritate me about the music- I mean really, how hard is it to remember what song you want played for your walk??  Isn’t that kind of a HUGE important thing to remember?? 

Regarding your postcards: could you do something like frame them all and incorporate them into some sort of wall art for your home?  Either frame them individually and put them going down a hallway or up a stairway or just grouped together on a wall in a room?  Or put them all into one really large frame as a single art piece?

Post # 71
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My only major regret is that we didn’t get any outdoor pictures. It poured the day of the wedding, but I wish I had just said the heck with it and gone outside with my husband and taken a few shots. All the pictures ended up being in the same general area.

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with the many bees who have mentioned how helpful this thread is! And it’s a good reminder that I should start building my must-have photo list now, while the ideas are fresh in my brain.  Setting up an iPhone note now…

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

@Irishb:  That’s so hilarious about the grandfather. Don’t regret it. Just remember it fondly once you no longer have him with you on earth.

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

@gsu02olliff:  OMG, I totally did not notice any “back fat” until you pointed it out.

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@peasantsong:  I didn’t even think about the chair thing.  I’ve been calculating the chairs by the guest count and didn’t think to subtract standing bridal party members.  I just made a sticky note, yay less chairs to rent HAHA!

Post # 76
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@peasantsong:  This one made me laugh. I actually think it’s a nice and genuine photo, though.  You were excited and it shows. In my opinion, that’s a good thing. The sparklers are also very beautiful! 

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