I had the greatest time on my wedding day, but looking back there are some things I definitely wish had gone differently:
1. Carry around pictures of everything while you’re decorating and show them what’s in your head when they volunteer to help with stuff. My dad had no idea how paper lanterns are supposed to look and instead of being somewhat clustered over the front tables they were spread out individually all over the room. I should have had a picture and also purchased about 4x the number of lanterns that I did. I also wish we’d decorated the space over the dance floor better. Our venue was a loft space with beautiful wood colums and flooring, but my pictures would have turned out a lot better if it wasn’t so sparse… Additionally, I made my cake (a decision I definitely DON’T regret even though it was really time consuming). I was supposed to look like this:
but I didn’t want it to sit in the freezer at the venue all night and risk it tipping over so I asked our reception hall coordinator if she could just sit the silver tray and top tier on top before wheeling it out right before the reception. She agreed and I thought she understood but it somehow ended up like this:
It still looked ok, but it wasn’t what I wanted (and had worked really hard to get). Also, there was a big hand print on the back where she picked it up off the platter – not visible to the guests, but it still drives me crazy…if only I’d shown her a picture!
2. I wish I’d directed my photographers more (or booked different photographers…they’ve been a real pain to deal with since the wedding…). There are tons of details they didn’t take even one picture of: table settings, staircase decor, our louge and bar areas, me with my bouquet, the ring bearer pillow (which I handmade), programs, guests being seated, ceremony decor, etc…and also there are only two pictures of me before the wedding (which I basically forced her to take) and only one picture of the ring bearer and flower girl (and they are both looking either freaked out or mad).
3. Paying too much for flowers (we only had the bouquets and bouts done professionally, did the rest ourselves). I went with the guy who seemed to know what he was doing but was charging 3x the other quote I got. I thought the other florist was either way underestimating or wasn’t going to do a very lush job. Boy was I wrong. Almost every element of the “I hate these bouquets” pictures I brought him was in my bouquet. He charged an arm and a leg and I didn’t even get close to what I wanted. My mom even had to beef up my bouquet with some of the roses we’d purchased ourselves for the reception.
4. I wish I had a picture of my ENTIRE family. My dad has 11 brothers and sisters and all but one travelled from all over the country to come to the wedding. We tried to skimp on the formals so that we could cut down on the time guests were waiting at the reception, but now I really regret not taking the extra 5 minutes to do this (or corralling everyone during dinner or dancing later at the reception).
Alright, I’ll get off my soapbox now. Thanks for indulging me!