- 3 months ago
I’m new here. I remember finding these forums years ago and learning a lot about the menstrual cycle, I discovered mooncups… learned a LOT.
I have made a collossal mistake.
Before COVID shut everything down, I was working overtime… so much overtime… and I guess I lost track of time/days. Had sex at the exact wrong time. There was some concern over whether or not my husband was even potent… I remember seeing the egg-white cervical mucus first thing the next morning and briefly worrying, then thinking meh, probably nothing.
Pregnancy confirmed on April first with a cheap test. We already knew what to do. My family has a history of difficult pregnancy, his has a history of mental illness and genetic problems: long story short we have chosen to not pass on our genes for some very good reasons. I just messed up. It was so hard to tell him, he trusted me to know the date.
I had the abortion. Dealt with the protesters outside the office violating stay-at-home orders and everything. Medical where you dissolve the pills in your mouth and suffer at home. (How does that compare with birthing pain, does anybody know? I’m curious because I feel like actually giving birth unnumbed might have be a more pleasant experience.) I never ever ever EVER want to have to do that again.
The abortion was April 4. I bled continuously on and off for several weeks and then it seemed I had a heavy period more or less at the normal time around the 24th.
Then nothing happened in May.
I had a seriously heavy period at the end of June. This is logical to me if I skipped one, right? There was mild panic when my right breast swelled and was noticably sore and very heavy, but it slowly normalized after flow started.
Well now it’s July. I was unbearably thirsty for days before flow started, and it didn’t matter how much I drank or if I took my magnesium+potassium. (When I’m unbalanced my calves cramp. I thought maybe it was the salts I needed, not liquid, so I tried that too. Still SO THIRSTY.) My breast got sore, but if it swelled it wasn’t enough to cause concern this time. The bleeding is even worse than last month. I mean come on. Overnight is understandable, I sleep on a towel and am ready to wring out my underwear under the faucet but I had to ask my husband to buy me maxi pads to backup the cup tomorrow because I cannot function at work like this. The only saving grace is that I wore a skirt today and do not have to sit down at my job. I am overflowing a mooncup in less than an HOUR. For more than 6 hours! My cervix hurts, it aches to bump into it and like last month it has descended so very low today. Mostly I’m concerned about this amount of bleeding. Last month it was heavy and lasted for a whole week I think. But at least that one I was emptying the cup every couple of hours and it seemed like there was a reasonable explanation since I missed a month. Is this near-hemoraghing NORMAL after an abortion?
I have contacted insurance and am supposed to be getting a list of OBGYNs I can go see via email in a couple of hours. The nurse in the live chat said I should go to the emergency room if I faint from the blood loss. Eat lots of meat and spinach for the iron. While I wait to go to a doctor, I thought I might make an account here and ask if any of you have lived through this?
Is this NORMAL?