Please share your TTC journey after a CP

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Sugar bee

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SeaOfLove :  I’m not sure if you remember my story.. 

Got a BFP 13DPO, and the CP started 6 days later. My cycle continued on as normal as if that was the period and I ovulated 2.5 weeks later (CD18) and conceived my son. Obviously, as you know normal pregnancy there (mostly). Doctor was not really concerned but did humor me the second time around with running betas. BFP with my son 9DPO, betas were 107 13DPO, and by 27DPO we’re just about 32,000. 

I’m sending you lots of love and hugs Bee. If you need to talk, I’m always here!

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Worker bee

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SeaOfLove :  i had a CP that was only a day after my period was due, and never past a squinter on a test. Cycle was totally normal, ovulated the normal cd13, period came on time, got pregnant the next cycle and am now almost 30 weeks. It really never messed anything up for me cycle-wise. 

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Helper bee
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SeaOfLove :  So sorry about your CP ❤️ I got a BFP on July 2nd, but I had a feeling something was off…I was getting stark BFNs on wondfos, but then when my period was a day late I took FRER and got a clear positive. The next day I took another FRER and it was markedly lighter, then lighter the next day, then negative. My period started July 6th, and it was normal except that it kinda lingered and I spotted for a few extra days. Then I ovulated in CD 18, which is normal for me. DH and I stuck to our TTC plan, which was just to BD every other day. I got my BFP at 9DPO, and this time it was visible on both a FRER and a wondfo. I’m now just about 8 weeks going by ovulation date, and last Thursday we saw a good heartbeat on the ultrasound (doc let me do an early U/S), so I’m cautiously optimistic. For context, I’m 35 and have a baby that just turned a year old, and my husband and I have been extremely fortunate in that both times we TTC, it happened very quickly. 

I hope you’re back to normal soon and go on to have a healthy pregnancy ❤️❤️

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Busy bee

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SeaOfLove :  So sorry that you’re going through this — I remembered my googling anxiety was through the roof after our CP, and because it was so early, doctors don’t always treat it as a miscarriage emotionally even though we became attached very early. My doctor didn’t follow-up because in her practice it’s not a problem until it’s three consecutive first trimester losses. 

I was 30 and hubs was 30 too, we got pregnant our first cycle and it ended with a CP two days after we tested. My next cycle was the same length but I ovulated a bit earlier and we were advised to take it off from trying (there’s no medical reason, it was advised more for mental health in our case.) Cycle 2 after the CP, we started trying again, and again I ovulated a bit earlier and we got pregnant again.

The pregnancy was textbook and she’s a happy and healthy two month old. The main side effect was a lot more anxiety (in the non-clinical sense) on my end about losing the baby. I didn’t share that I was pregnant outside of immediate family until 17 weeks when it became obvious and found myself really disconnected from things like decorating the nursery because I didn’t want to get attached. That’s a big regret — make sure you allow yourself to enjoy your pregnancy.

There’s a lot of research (all of which I just deleted because I didn’t think it was necessary) about how positive a CP can be for those starting to try. It proves that your body can get pregnant and that it recognizes what a non-viable pregnancy looks like (on a chromosomal level) and terminates it early. There’s also research to support that sometimes your body uses a CP as a test when you first start trying and that you can conceive easier in the months immediately following a CP and are more likely to carry that baby to term.

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Bumble bee
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Just popping in to say I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t have any advice unfortunately, but wishing you a short and successful journey to baby. 

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Bumble bee
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I am not sure how helpful of a perspective this is, but I have been reading a lot about recurrent miscarriage since I found out I am having another MC and one thing that was mentioned in one of the journal articles is that some doctors are hesitant to intervene or test after CPs because CPs are so much more common than later losses and are usually not indicative of an underlying problem, and doctors want to avoid overtesting and intervening too soon. I have mixed feelings about this argument because it’s the same argument used for waiting until 3 miscarriages to do RPL testing (in my case, my RE didn’t wait and tested me once he realized I was having my second MC, and found no issues). I know it’s not really comforting information but it’s a potentially interesting perspective on testing after CPs. 

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Buzzing bee

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SeaOfLove :  If you’ve followed my story at all you’ll know I’ve had a few CPs. I’ll write out each of my experiences because they were all a bit different! 

My first loss I was calling a miscarriage, but I’m pretty sure it qualifies as a CP since they never saw anything on the ultrasound I had done at 5w3d. I started bleeding 5w4d, so it was a bit later. My cycle was a bit delayed. I normally O CD16 and that cycle I O’d CD18. My next period was also longer than normal and had more spotting afterwards. I got pregnant 3 cycles later.

My 2nd loss was also a CP. I got a  BFP on 15dpo and it was really faint and I started bleeidng later that day. My cycle was completely unaffected and I O’d normally. That one was weird because my hcg kept rising after I had started bleeding, but it eventually plateaud and started dropping. I got pregnant 1 cycle later.

My 3rd loss was an 8 week miscarraige so I’ll skip that one. We took one cycle break and I got pregnant the first time we went back to trying,

My 4th loss was also a CP. My period was about 2 days late. I wasn’t sure when I would O due to the miscarriage right before messing up my cycles, but I actually O’d pretty much on time (CD16 or CD17).

Even though most of my losses have been CPs, my OB still ordered recurrent loss testing. I’ve also been a ble to see an RE who didn’t dismiss my CPs, so that was nice. Still waiting for my rainbow!

I’m sorry you’re going through this, dear. It sucks so hard. Just know that most of the time CPs are due to chromosomal abnormalities, so odds are that the next time you get pregnant it’ll all turn out just fine. ♥

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Helper bee
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SeaOfLove :  I’m so sorry you are going through this ❤️.  I got my BFP July 31st at 10dpo, and started bleeding August 6th.  My period was horrendous and I ended up in the ER due to the pain however I do not believe this to be typical.  I had one follow up with my OB due to the ER visit but that was a fairly useless visit as they had no answers.  I was advised to take a break for one cycle, primarily for dating purposes of a future pregnancy, however I decided not to take a break as I track so closely.

I am currently in my first cycle following my CP so I don’t have much to add on the successful pregnancy front but I’m hopeful!! I did ovulate about 5 days later then normal (cd21 this cycle) and I’m currently about half way through my TWW.

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Busy bee
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I’m so so sorry for your loss ❤️ I’ve talked about my story on other boards but I’ll try to answer your questions here too. I’m sorry this is so long.

I’ve had 2 CPs in a row. Each of my CPs were months we were NTNP. The first I had a positive test at 9DPO and 10DPO and then negative ones, followed by a negative blood test then AF came at 15DPO. For the second I starting bleeding very heavily at what ended up being about 5 weeks pregnant, didn’t know I was pregnant but took a test because the bleeding was mimicking my earlier CP. Both times the cycle after the CP was normal length but seemed anovulatory or at least very weak O with a non-existent luteal phase, but that is normal for me so I would say things got back to “normal” very quickly. The physical losses were both very hard though. I bled so heavily and was very weak from blood loss, and the pain was Loren intense than my normal cramps. It took a couple of cycles for my to recover from the fatigue. 

None of my doctors cared about either of my losses, but I was able to beg for clotting panels because of my extreme complications with my first pregnancy (living child). I was found to have MTHFR which is a clotting issue. Most normal doctors do not care about this one though, so you probably wouldn’t be able to get tested unless you have multiple miscarriages or other complications, god forbid. I also have PCOS and endometriosis which both can contribute to recurrent loss. 

The emotional side of CPs is very hard, and it’s made harder that many doctors don’t consider it a real loss. I think it’s absolutely shitty the way they dismiss CPs, especially recurrent ones. However, as many PP have said, one loss is so normal that most doctors won’t follow up with you unless you have known issues. There’s not really anything they can do, even a good doctor, which is really tough. The only silver lining about CPs is you can jump right back into TTC after you finish bleeding because they are so early. 

As for the emotional side, it’s been over a year since my first and 5 months since my second, and I still cry on a regular basis about it. I’m so scared of it happening again now that we are TTC. In fact last month, I started having some possible pregnancy symptoms and had a panic attack because I was so afraid of being pregnant and having the potential for another loss. My only advice is to take all the time you need to grieve, and don’t let anyone make you feel like your loss is insignificant. Also therapy has been really helpful for me to process everything, including my guilt at being happy with my living child. With early losses a lot of people will quickly forget, even if you decide to share somewhat publicly. For me it’s hard knowing I’m really the only one who remembers my children, and therapy has been an absolute necessity to deal with that. 

Please feel free to message me if you need to talk or anything. Sending you lots of love and light ❤️ 

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Busy bee

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SeaOfLove :  I’m sorry bee!

I got pregnant the first month we started trying and miscarried about two weeks after BFP. We took two months off because I was very emotional. We got pregnant again as soon as we started trying and had another miscarriage. The next cycle was a BFN. The cycle after that we got our BFP that resulted in my sweet rainbow. After both miscarriages my cycles went straight back to normal and the miscarriages mimicked my regular period although with more clots.

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