- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
“Please sit in alphabetical order, knees facing the centerpiece. Keep your hands to yourself, keep the conversation clean, and if you have nothing nice to say, please remain quiet.”
I envision that quote written on my place cards. Not all, but some. Let me explain myself…
Of course, I haven’t stopped daydreaming or mapping out things in my mind for my wedding. (I just don’t do it as frequently now that I am settling into being a bride-to-be). The most awkward thought was that of the seating arrangements. Like most, I have a dysfunctional family. My family chooses to dramatize everything and make scenes at the most inappropriate settings, such as the the time they started a feud at me great uncle’s funeral. These memories trouble me and make me wonder where I’m going to sit everyone.
I know that the tables closest to the head table(s) are for parents, grandparents, and whomever is closest to the bride and groom. Sounds great; it’s a done deal. Problem: my brothers are the two ringleaders in the family drama. We are not close by any means, and frankly I do not want them anywhere near those tables.
I know what some of you are thinking right now, “Family is family, no matter what has happened.” To those thinkers, I will simply say that the details of the relationship between my family and I will not be divulged, but that quote is the only reason my parents are at that table…and to save face.
If my brothers sit at one of those tables close to the head table, there will be issues. Also, as I said, I do not want them there. So, what are my options? Well, to sit them with other people in the midst of the other tables. Then there’s another choice. The scene made at that funeral was started by my brothers. If not seated at the “table of importance,” another scene will be made because they aren’t sitting there, and they’re my brothers, and after all, FAMILY IS FAMILY. They will feel comfortable in creating this scene because they are comfortable around that company.
Here lies another choice: sit them with people we aren’t close to, members of my fiancé’s family that are around their age, or with my great aunts and uncles that they visit with frequently. Probably my best option thus far. But, they have legs and mouths and are capable no matter what their location.
Even if I take that option, I will undoubtedly face some sort of aftermath. Phone calls from my mom, brothers, sister-in-law, etc. that want to tell me what they think of what I did. I am all about this being my day and disregarding people’s opinions, but I do not want to have any emotion present in my being that day besides happiness, excitement, and love.
So I ask, fellow brides-to-be and brides, what in the world am I supposed to do?!