(Closed) Please talk me off the wedding dress ledge!

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I think the dress is gorgeous, but if you don’t like it then you should definitely try to do something about it!! It sounds to me like you let people talk you into a dress that you weren’t even sure you liked to begin with. Maybe you could explain your situation to the store, and if they’re willing to let you try again, you can look by yourself…that way you know no one else can influence your decision!

Post # 4
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown

That dress is pretty. I can see what you mean about it being a bit plain or boring. I think accessories will really help. Maybe do your accessories in a different color for a little pop. What was wrong with the dress you liked with your friends?

Post # 6
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree the dress is a pretty gown for a simple bride but you sound like me you want to be a glamorious bride and each glamorious bride deserves  a sparkley embablished dress. Yes i agree with you this dress is very plain see if you can switch the dress they do it all the time its our big day and the biggest part besides from the marriage is the dress we will wear so i think we are aloud to be picky finding the perfect wedding dress is definatly a big freaking deal! good luck.

Post # 7
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s pretty, but you’re right about it being pretty plain. Maybe a fancy sash or something could bring it out more.

Post # 8
469 posts
Helper bee

I personally think you look great in both but I think the second dress is prefect for what you say you want. Do you mind me asking who makes the first dress? I’m a simple bride that wants no beading 🙂

Post # 9
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Awwww you are not crazy! I am a very decisive person on EVERYTHING….except for the wedding gown for some reason. I decided that I didn’t like the original gown that I bought and changed my mind about 4 times on which dress that I would purchase instead of the original one. So you are not alone!!! My Fiance was like “what is the deal with you and this dress?!?” because it was so uncharacteristic of me.

It sounds like you have been pursuaded by others in your gown choice which has led you to not be thrilled about either gown. I would definitely start shopping again because you don’t want to be worrying about your wedding gown and not liking it for another 10 months! Even though it really is beautiful, it sounds like you don’t love it. I would be afraid to call the bridal store too, but definitely have your Fiance do it hehe! What worked for me is that I went shopping to a ton of store by myself, made up my mind on “the one” and then took my friends to see it. That way I wasn’t pursuaded at all and still had the support and encouragement before I bought it.

I really feel for you, but just hang in there!! You are really not the only one that has been here and there is a dress out there that you are really going to love. Let us know what you decide on!




Post # 11
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

As others have said, it’s beautiful, but if you don’t feel right about it, you should see what you can do about it.  Edit: I just read what you wrote about loving your dress.  If YOU love it, then don’t worry!!  Wear it and enjoy it!

There is a LOT that can be done with it!  You could get the top remade.  I’ve been waffling about it, too.  But I just saw a craigslist ad where someone remade the top of my dress.  It looks fabulous.  Please PM me if you want photos.

I like the basic shape and fit of mine, but it’s there’s nothing spectacular about it.  I can’t get my deposit back, and can’t exchange the dress.  I don’t at all feel badly about paying a bit more money to feel better about my dress.  When I think about all the money I’m shelling out for photography, I think it’s worth it.

Post # 12
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Instead of a sash, have you tried a sparkly belt? They had a few in the salon that I went to and just the small amount of sparkle around the waist made a huge difference in how simple the dresses looked. Something like this picture from the pro folio!



Post # 13
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You have a beautiful figure. Anything will look good on you.

I had dress regret. I worked through it and now I am soon to be happily married in my first dress. I just needed to feel personalized. I understand your hunt for accessories. I am wearing pink shoes and carrying a matching pink bouquet. My hairstyle will be an updo. All these things make me feel more personal.

If you want a sash, you can easily make your own with any fabric or a beautiful piece of lace from a fabric store.

Or, David’s Bridal sells great sashes in every color.

You can wear such beautiful jewelry with that dress too. What kind of veil will you have?

Don’t be afraid to be totally daring and unique. For me, I love pale pink. I know I’m ridiculous, but it’s my signature thing. What’s your signature thing that you could do that no one else would do.

Me, personally looking at that dress, I see a beautiful silk/or satin band wrapped around you. Or even a piece of black lace. Check out Vera Wang for inspiration. Her gowns are stunning because of the unique details that she adds that no one else would have thought to add. Then every other designer eventually copies her it seems.

Claire Pettibone could inspire you too.

Don’t worry about spending more money. It actually has NOTHING to do with the actual dress. It’s how you FEEL in the dress. If you feel like a million bucks you exude that energy and everyone notices THAT and not the dress. You have so much time to accessorize.

And if you take care of everything now, you might not leave time to let the perfect things organically find you. That’s what happened to me. But now I’m going with the flow and I am happy.

Don’t worry about your deposit or the details. Go to a quiet place, close your eyes and picture how you want to feel in the dress. Imagine you feel better and more stunning than you’ve ever felt. Picture your Fiance seeing you for the first time. Just focuss on how you feel. The answers will come to you.

But, you have a killer figure and just know that you can where anything you please. 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 14
37 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

Maybe instead of changing the dress think of it as a very beautiful and flattering canvas and add the accessories.   Look for a lovely veil and/or hair accessories.  Have a glamourous hair stayle or dramatic jewellry a classic dress like that to me is begging for a dramatic necklace. 

Maybe as someone else suggested personalise it with some bright coloured shoes or crinoline.  With the folds I am not sure how it would look with a sash with all that gathering.  Maybe something simple like a think medieval style chain belt or something dramatic with crystals in it instead of a sash.  

Have you tried it on with a veil and a headpiece of some sort?  That might change how you feel about the dress too. Make it less “plain”.  You could go a very dramatic long veil with a pattern through it, to add texture

Could you add sleeves?  A lace over jacket.  I have seen a similar style with a very simple dress with a beautiful long lace over jacket that became the train behind the dress.  Is your wedding in winter?  Some sort of jacket.  I love the cute fluffy winter coats you see for wearing with bridal wear.

I wouldn’t worry too much you have a beautiful figure and its a beautiful classic dress now you get the fun part of personalising it and making it yours.





Post # 15
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Rather than change the dress, I would carry a cascade bouquet. These can be “too much” with a fancy dress but I think if you did a modern interpretation of the cascade bouquet and included some trailing greenery to go with the lines of your dress it would look amazing next to your simple gown. Something like this one maybe.


Post # 16
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

just remember…if they do not let you change the dress it can work…just dress the hell out of it with accessories. 

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