Post # 1
Tonight SO and I went to his parents’ house. And on the front of the refrigerator was a picture of my SO and his Ex. It was like a photo booth picture with her kissing him on his cheek. We’ve been dating almost 2 years and I don’t ever remember seeing this picture before. It could have been covered by other papers though. So maybe his mom found it and put it up there, she was too lazy to take it down, or she doesn’t want to take it down.
She is his parents next door neighbor so they talk about her enough already, but seeing the picture was just too much.
Do I say anything to my SO or do I just pretend I didn’t see it? It makes me feel uncomfortable with the picture jist staring at me while I’m sitting at their kitchen table…
Post # 3
@ceemarie7: Have SO take care of it.
That’s stupid of them on their part. What are they thinking????
Post # 4
I say ignore it. you pointed out plausible reasons for why it could be there. But take note. If the next time you visit, it’s still there, I would have a word with him.
Post # 6
uggh no. Thaat’s not appropriate at all. Tell your SO.
Post # 7
i would have your so deal with it.
it is a bit insensitive on their part though.
Post # 8
Well I guess that is 4 to 1 that I should say something. I will let you all know what happens.
Post # 9
Make it 5 to 1. Be calm about it but express how awkward it is to be sitting at their kitchen table and seeing a picture of him and his ex on the fridge. I wouldn’t like that, either. I would have probably sent him a text telling him to look at the pic on the fridge lol.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I would mention it to my SO. Or I’d bring them a picture of me and him and say, laughing,”For you fridge!”
Post # 11
@prahajess: That’s passive aggressive. Op-if you say anything, do it directly.
Post # 12
@ceemarie7: You could mention it to your SO if you like, as in, “oh hey, did you notice this?” but you can’t demand he do anything about it. Its his parents house – they can have a shrine to this girl if they want.
If your SO decides to mention it to his parents, it should come from him, not you and not on your behalf. Even your SO doesn’t get to tell his parents what they can have up in their own house.
Post # 13
Ignore it. They have a friendly relationship and presumably a fond history with this woman and it has nothing to do with you.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@invisabee: lol. I was being tongue in cheek.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a sense of humor about it, if you have the right relationship. If you don’t, let your SO take care of it.
Post # 15
@ceemarie7: I would ignore it. Just because he’s dating you now doesn’t mean all memories of his past have to be erased by everyone he’s ever known.
Post # 16
If it’s been there for a long time, she probably has it tuned out and didn’t even think about it. I would be a bit hurt too, but I would probably just ignore it .. then have SO give her a picture of you two later.