Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
So our wedding was this past weekend, and it was absolutely perfect. The venue, the food, the music. And we also had great photographers whose pictures I absolutely cannot wait to see. Thing is, our venue has a beautiful garden area in the back with an incredible gazebo… and we forgot to take pictures out there during the reception. I know it sounds stupid, but I’m literally in tears over this. When we booked the place, I couldn’t wait to see what beautiful wedding pictures we would have out here, and I forgot to tell my photographers that I wanted to get pics out there as I assumed I would just remember. Well, I didn’t. And now I’m literally in tears. My mom is telling me I’m being nuts as there will be tons of beautiful pics, which I’m sure there will be, but it just sucks. I love night time pics and wanted them so bad. :((( And another thing that sucks, is I had a clip on one side of my head. I took all pics facing that side and now looking at pics from family and friends, the side without the clip looks so much better in my opinion, and I took ALL of my pics on the side facing the clips. Ugh. I dunno… I tell myself to stop caring so much and I’ll feel better, but then I get so sad about it all over again. There were so many opportunities to get great photo framing pics out there and we got NONE! I’m really hoping three months from now I’m not gonna care, but I’m seriously devastated at the moment. :'(
Post # 2
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Honey bee
Diamond84: Is it possible to arrange a portrait shoot at the gazebo with the photographer? You could wear your dress and not the hair clip. *hugs* I totally get how you feel – I’d be the same way in your situation. I tend to visualize things and then get upset if they don’t work out or if I forget.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Diamond84: This is nothing to be “devastated” over! It will go away as time passes. Just sit back and think about all the good from that day!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Oh I hear you. We missed so many pictures because we were just BUSY. Also my flowers sucked. Like I almost didn’t carry them sucked. They were brown and looked dead. They weren’t what I ordered, weren’t the shape they were supposed to be. The boutineers weren’t what THEY were supposed to be. I’m trying very hard to not be totally pissed off about it anymore. No one could tell from afar, but ugh it makes me mad lol.
I’m sure they’d let you come back and take a few photos. You could wear your dress again, or you could get a short white one!
Post # 5
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Worker bee
Honestly, I’d see if you guys could set up another shoot! Do you still have your dress and tux? I’ve heard of other couples doing this.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Diamond84: I can sorta relate to some of the emotions you are feeling. My 2 photographers (husband and wife duo/friends of family) didn’t get a group picture of me and hubby and our two families together, kind of a big grand photo of everyone. I was really upset when we went through the pictures that I didn’t get that. ALSO I specifically told my photographer that I wanted a picture of my fiance’s face as he saw me start to walk down the asile. That was the ONE freaking picture I wanted more than anything. I didn’t get it. I didn’t even get anything close. It was a total bummer for a couple weeks after getting pictures back. But now, I got over it. The rest of the pictures were truly great. I know it doesn’t sound like much now, but eventually you’ll be ok with the pictures you missed. There are plenty of opportunities to take more pictures in the future, in my opinion. I just make the best of it.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
Diamond84: Aw, I know how you feel. I wanted wayyy more outdoor photos at our wedding but it was just way too cold. We took some and I think they’ll be great but I still feel sad that we did not get more. I am not in tears but I do regret not just toughing it out and getting more done.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
Astra: That’s what I’m thinking of doing. Unfortunately we can’t do it anytime soon as our wedding took place in my hometown and we just flew in to my husband’s city last night (I moved). I was thinking of maybe getting some pictures there in my white engagement dress, short, 3/4 sleeves, lace, during late summer, with my husband dressed in business casual type attire. I think it would look nice. I can put it along side our wedding pics.
I dunno. It just sucks that we didn’t get any day of wedding and now I may have to arrange this shoot and pay more money for it. 🙁
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I think this happens to all of us! Day of is such a whirlwind (in a good way) and sometimes we just forget things we had planned for months. I forgot to bring my invitation to get photographed, I forgot my flowers when I walked down the aisle and I didn’t take a group shot with my Bridemaids.
But you know what…I have amazing memories and all our photos capture that! I was a little upset over the flowers for a few days but really that is so not important since I had an amazing day and we are married and happy 🙂
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
Josheen: I’m really thinking about it. My husband is really understanding and I hope he won’t think I’m crazy for this, but I’m thinking of doing an “after the wedding shoot” with us dressed slightly more casual than full on wedding dress and tux to take pictures there and maybe even downtown since we never did engagement pics. The more I think about it, I think it would be awesome as we don’t have any professional pics together other than the wedding. And we would both be so much more relaxed and carefree for this type of shoot.
Thanks for all the replies bees. I didn’t know who else to turn to as I didn’t want everyone around me to think I’m crazy because I know they will say the wedding was lovely and I’m overreacting, but you guys are seriously making me feel so much better. Thank you!
mchitt329: Thanks, I know I will try! I think once the pro teasers start to come in, I’ll feel even better. Even with the hair clip. I showed my husband last night about the clip thing and he said he likes the pics with the clip more than the other side because the other side looks like I’m wearing a helmet on my head, lol.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
MrsP_bee: Ha, I forgot the wedding invite too and was slightly annoyed about that.
Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
it happens to pretty much everyone. It will pass! having perfect wedding pics won’t be nearly as important in the future As simply having the pivs to document the memories will be.
maybe do an anniversary shoot?!
Post # 13
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Helper bee
Diamond84: Sounds like “wedding anti-climax” to me: the whirlwind of planning and its stress is gone, and you’re exhausted.
This too shall pass
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
I would agree with PP that say in time you will get over they way you are cufrrently feeling.
You could always try to arrange another shoot at the venue to get the photos you so desperately wanted.
Im not a huge fan of my wedding photos. I havent got a single photo of me and my Mum and that was one I specifically asked for. On the day you get so involved in other things that these things slip your mind.
We had some further photos taken at a different venue in the Autumn a few months after our wedding with our Daughter and I love these so much more than our wedding photos.
Whilst your wedding photos are important, there will be other oportunities in life for professional photos together. Try not to get too worked up over it. Life is too short.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
Diamond84: i DIYed ALOT of my wedding and wanted the typical ‘bridal magazine shoot’ detail shots. i didnt get them. i also wanted one with me and my gran. i didnt get it. i wanted one with me and my girls messing around. i didnt get it. one of my dress hanging in a window or from a tree…. i didnt get it. it SUCKS at the time – but you WILL get over it!!!
5 months later and we STILL dont have our photos back (the down side of using friends as photographers!) not being able to see them everyday around our home i get myself really down about the shots i dont have!! until i look back at the online gallery and see that actually – although i havent got the ‘stereotypical’ shots i wanted, what we do have sums up our day perfectly and brings back some AMAZING memories!!
maybe go back to the gazebo for your 1st anniversay! maybe ask your photographer to photoshop your clip out of a few pics??xx
